2006-12-20 09:47:25 · 7 answers · asked by baby_ruth5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It took me two years to figure out that what I really needed to do is to let the past go and move on with my life.
When thoughts of him and what he did to me would come into my head I had to force them out by thinking of nice things.
I had to keep myself active. I could not sit without having something to read or work on. I kept myself distracted until it became a habit.
2006-12-20 09:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First,..Are you sure this is what you want? ..second., was there any abuse involved in your reason for separating? if there was abuse ..Move on, surround yourself with friends..what is your age? if your a mature adult, and you are not sure if this is what you want, and there was no abuse involved, then think from the bottom of your heart , and see if there is any reason to be together. It is a jungle out there for us women. I had an x-husband, we remained the best of friends, and I had to watch him die from cancer, ever day he died a little bit more right in front of my eyes. If I could go back in time, he would not have been an ex, ...he would be my husband, going to counseling with me, and I would of not given our relationship 50% or nor would I have given him 100% but instead I would of given 105% .
Now back to your question..., if you want to get over your ex, what is it that you have always wanted to do? Play the piano? go to aerobics with the girls? paint the walls on the inside of your house ? redecorate?? make crafts? take voice lessons? get on a bowling league with the girls? have slumber parties with your best friends? You see ...there is so much that you can do to keep busy.
Good Luck to you...and remember Never stay in a bad relationship, but always try to salvage the good ones.
Amy S.
2006-12-20 18:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not all caught up in emotions over you, why would you give him yours! I think what hurts is that you feel cheated out of a truly committed relationship -not that you miss him. But don't feel down on yourself, there's a sea of people who've been there & done that! Everytime you start to think of him, say he's not worth it & move on! -he has!
Cheer up! {hug} Also, think of all the beautiful women out there like Christie Brinkley, Jessica Simpson that all got dumped. It's the men most of the time & not you! And what's even more hurtful to them is that TONS of people walk all over their hurt. It could be worse, & it'll get better! :)
2006-12-20 17:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by Nocine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've only been seperated then he isn't your ex husband. That comes with a DIVORCE.
2006-12-20 19:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say just pick your self up and go out and have some fun its hard but you will learn to cope with it im going throw it now hade my first date this last week end and i hade a lot of fun so try to go out and kick thim heals
2006-12-20 20:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by may 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now this may make me sound like a slut but the truth is the truth the best way to get over a man is to get under another one. trust me i've been in your place. you need a jump off
2006-12-20 17:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by missy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All i can sy is time heals all things. You just now accepted it and it will take a while. try to keep yourself busy. I hope it works.
2006-12-20 17:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋