How do I get her out of my mind?

Question

Okay, the girl I asked the previous questions about seems not to want a relationship. Even if she does think I'm cute, she won't bite. I've been turning on the charm with her and can't get her to react. I'm thinking she's in a relationship with this girl that lives in another dorm. Anyway, I've decided that I should let her go. If she really likes me, she'll come around. But, in the meantime, I need to get her off my mind, because just saying "I'm going to leave her alone" doesn't work. I need someway to stop think about her. Now. Even now, during winter break, I'm thinking about her, I feel so lame. Help.

Answer 1

find someone else that is good for u. hang around with them, become friends, then ull have so much fun with her that u will forget. start a new life without her.

Answer 2

I feel 4 u! my home-girl was going through the same thing and this is what i suggested to her. This girl sounds like she is playing hard 2 get by making u think that she's not that into u and if that's the case here is what u do cut the charm off but keep a steady flow of friendly conversations here and there put your cute looks and charm to use somewhere were they will be appreciated by doing this you will find someone who likes u and isn't so hard to get and trust this chick will be better 4 u because she knows what she wants and isn't about games and that miss can't get u out of my head will notice because the shoe will now be on the other foot GAME BEATS GAME CHECKMATE haaa! haaa!

Answer 3

As the old phrase goes: "There's more fish in the sea". Don't actively pursue her because you have admitted that you think she's in another relationship. Just be nice around her and don't stop being her friend. Meanwhile, you will most likely find someone else. If you push the envelope too much you may lose her friendship, too. Just ride it out. Try not to think in extremes. Being her friend will relieve some of the stress. Who knows? She may wind up coming to you if something happens in her current relationship! Be yourself and don't put added stress on the situation. Go out and go fishing. You might catch a keeper.

Answer 4

Take one of your notebooks and write down everything you deeply feel about this girl. Then hide it under your bed. Next, do something that helps you feel better about you. Try getting a box of thank you notes, and writing a note and posting it to someone who helped YOU to become the dynamic and promising college girl, you have become!

Then go out and buy a stamp, and make somebody else's day better -- this works -- I've tried it! Send a note to every teacher who ever benefitted your life, for example. After you do this, you will feel better. If not, repeat it until you do.

If after sending 10 thank you notes you still feel bad, think about contacting the dormitory Resident Leader or manager, and you might ask for a referal for free counseling. College students are notorious for not using the free services they are entitled to! Happy winter break, and Good luck, sister!

Answer 5

I'll do my best to help you get over her. You can contact me and I'll keep you company. In reality it's just going to take some time. You have to get out and go to the club or stay close to your friends. Find another young lady to pursue. I know it's hard, but imagine you were in a relationship with her and she was treating you like this. It would be worse than it is right now. Get in contact with me.

Answer 6

hi. i feel for you.

it is really difficult to get someone off your mind especially if you are dead set on being with her :)
maybe what you need to do is date around for a bit, to pre -occupy your mind, keep an open mind with the people that you meet, and after this, if you still think that she is the best person for you to be with, by all means, go back and fight for your feelings.

but in the meantime, i think, you should open yourself up to other people who may be able to give you the love that you are looking for and more. :)

hope you feel better soon :)

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Answer 7

It's okay to feel infatuation deeply from time to time, since it means you are human. But being attracted to people who are not interested in us, or in otherwise inaccessible people, usually winds up hurting our self esteems.

And hurting our self esteem becomes a vicious cycle -- for example, she doesn't like me, so I will obsess over her, which reinforces the idea I harbor deep inside, which says I don't deserve to have someone who is really attracted to me, too.

This might not apply to you, but it is worth considering. My friends have told me, 'Get a life!' By this they wanted me to start loving and enjoying my own company. I used to dread being alone, since I actually detested myself.

Once I learned to love myself, things got better. I learned that, to have self-esteem, go out and do esteem-able acts -- in others words, when I feel unlovable, I go out and help other people. This makes me feel better about myself. Next thing that happens, I'm smiling and less selfish, and the world wants my number, if you follow me . . .

Answer 8

Invest in learning your courses more, make new friends. Your in college to in prove your mind not your relations ships; so study more! Do not make the same mistake that I did, use this time and place to develop your mind better. You got a life time for relations but only a short time to really learn: USE IT!

Answer 9

ok, just do what I say and you'll have her out your mind. Stand up and face the computer, now click your heels together three times with your eyes closed and say there is no other woman three times. It works every single time.

Answer 10

Hun, if ya care about her, she isn't going to just "get out of your mind" like that. Just know that if she wants you, she'll come get you, and if not, well, that's her problem. You can't agonize over something that's out of your control. Just keep yourself busy, do things you like that make you happy.