my bf and i intend to live together and we are buying a house. what should we do to be sure we get along?

Answer 1

Well, doll, be SURE you are getting along now because living together and buying a house ( A HUGE DEAL ) is MAJOR. If you can't get on now, you won't in the future.
Don't let small things get in the way of your happiness and never let the sun go down in an argument. :)

True love!

Answer 2

Well Sweety, its no sure way you're going to know that for sure you're going to get along! I wish you the best though! BUT what you can do is make sure both of you are meeting up to the others needs.A relationship is 50 50.Make sure you agree on things and that you are both happy with eachothers decisions.Sure, you're going to get into arguements BUT thats normal, whether you live alone or seperate.Just make sure that when you argue, you dont just go on and on about the same thing BUT find a way to resolve the problem! State eachothers opinions then continue to resolve the issue.Good Luck and Have fun! Its such a great experience when you finally move in together! its a thrill! Enjoy! :)

Answer 3

The first thing that should take place is compromising. You should comprise on everything from the house to where furniture should be placed. The next thing is to give each other room in the house, you know each of you should have y'all own space! The last thing is too come up with a budget plan. You will need this so that you will not have an finances arguments! If you follow guidelines you should get along pretty well.

Answer 4

Nothing is guaranteed, except for the fact that if you purchase a house and aren't married if anything DOES go wrong in the relationship one of you could wind up being responsible for ALL of the payments on the house as well as the bills if the other one leaves. Or the other one can force you to pack up and get out. I sure as heck wouldn't purchase a home with a "boyfriend". There would have to be more of a committment that "boyfriend" or "fiance" for me to purchase a house with someone so I could make sure my butt was covered in the event of a split.

Answer 5

Make sure both of you are clear on how that will work. If you both are going to contribute 50/50 to the mortgage payments, agree on it. Getting it in writing would be a great idea. Think about recurring costs like utilities and groceries too.

Also be clear about what you two will do if it doesn't work out. How will things be split if it doesn't work out? Will one person keep the house and buy out the other's equity? Will you sell and each keep half the profits?

On a more personal note, I hope you two are familiar with one another's traits: Do either of you snore? Are you both about equally neat (or messy)? Do you plan to have pets? Prepare yourself as much as possible beforehand. Good luck.

Answer 6

That is a loaded question and has so many possible answers!! First of all how long have you been together? Hopefully quiet awhile if you are buying a house together! I have been with my guy for 5 years and we still have time that we argue. Every relationship has its ups and down it is just knowing how to hold it all together!

You knowing him will be the only one who can answer that question. One big thing, do not get mad if he wants to go out with his friends, both of you will also need you own space! Very important

Answer 7

Since you're even asking this question, sounds like your relationship isn't ready for such a huge step. If you're not married to him, you shouldn't be buying a house with him. ESPECIALLY if you're worried you won't get along, because guess what? Buying a house is expensive and when something breaks you don't have a landlord to come pay for it and fix it. That's going to be your responsibility. If you're worried about getting along now, just wait until you have a mortgage to pay and things breaking down. My advice to be sure you get along? Don't move in with him.

Answer 8

Buying a house is a big step, and you should have some kind of a legal statement of what happens if the relationship breaks up. It will help to eliminate any legal arguments when something bad happens. With the high failure rate of marriages, all relationships should have clear legal understandings. You might also want to include any personal requirements in the understanding, it might help to keep you together if the consquences are understood and agreed to.

Answer 9

I would not buy a house together right now,First you must make sure you get along and If you are asking this Question then you are not sure and your heart Is speaking to you,Listen to your heart.

Pray too,I hope you get the answer you need too.

Answer 10

It seems like you guys, so far, have started on the right foot and headed up after that....way fast!
I suggest that you get a home that has a bathroom with TWO separate sinks...like a "HERS" and "HIS" thing, you know? Because I know for sure you will definitely get annoyed when he starts leaving a mess behind, and stuff.
A two bedroom apartment isn't such a bad idea..."For Starters", since you guys aren't a married couple yet.
Having two bedrooms and two bathrooms will help you both be neat, organized, and still feel "privacy".
Trust me once someone, other than your parents and brothers, starts using your bathroom, and closets..you will totally feel awkward, uneasy, unsure...I hope I haven't lost you yet!
(Cuz sometimes I talk toooooo much...lol)
Well good luck with this new chapter in your life and in your boyfriend's...