ok, so i have someone I know who is married and happy. But she then told me if he ever cheated on her, that it would be okay and it's something he needed to work out of himself and that she loved him and she would stay with him. apparently they have talked about this together. Is this normal?! Doesn't it sound like they are setting themselves up for them to cheat on each other?
Because I'm sorry if my husband cheated on me, you can guarantee his butt will be kicked straight to the curb...no questions asked! I firmly believe that if you do it once and get away with it, you are going to do it again!
2006-12-20 09:37:23 · 25 answers · asked by S.F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This IS NOT ME... and my relationship...
this is really a friend of mine and when she told this to me, I was SHOCKED! I didn't even know what to say at that moment. But then I thought about it and thought that is the strangest thing I ever heard come out of a married woman's mouth... She even said that probaly down the road it would happen. (weird!)
The only thing I can guess is that she has already done it and so she is making excuses for him if he were to cheat on her in the future... what do you think?
2006-12-20 09:48:10 · update #1
AND YES...one of these answers was right on one thig...they are swingers and they have done the 3-some thing...but that was together. And they Have already tried "recruiting" me, but they know I WILL NOT GO THERE! But it's all good, but doing it seperately, I feel is just a bit different. But some of you are right...it's different outlooks and maybe they are just more open to doing what they want and don't care.... thanx
2006-12-20 09:52:36 · update #2
The couple you refer to in the first paragraph are both probably already cheating, (maybe even "swinging " together) may be feeling you out for your "take" on the subject. Our society has become so lame on so many issues that cheating is just one of them. If a husband/wife does not care if their partner cheats, they just don't care!
2006-12-20 09:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by NAN G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not intirely true I have known some men that have cheated and have gotten there wives back and haven't did it again. There are some men that are decent and know that they have made some horrible mistakes in his life, please don't tell me that you haven't made a mistake in your life and you wanted someone anyone to forgive you? I know I have, many times, I am being honest with you. Every man at one time or another had to experience women that was hard and cold and didn't want to be understanding at all so of course that would leave the door open for them to cheat...Now that answers part of your question. As far as througing him out on his ear, listen I have been with mine for a long time and he has done the unthinkable to me and me too him but we found ourselves again and we made things work. One of the many reasons why I have been with him for so long.
I know you would be angry if he cheated, and yes mine did too I didn't leave, he could have left me when I cheated he didn't! There always things called chances, depending on the circumstances you have to outweigh the good to the bad.
Now it is a possiblity that they have talk to each other concerning the fact that it was ok for him to go and cheat, only because yes she wants too also!
She is in a way being honest! And if he goes for it well it will be the truth is in the action! Sorry!
You have women like that and still want to be married to there men!
I know you might not think that it is not right but that stuff happens
You can look at this as cheating and yes it is cheating but you still have variables that change this and if you are smart you will think about that, Oh yes this was a good question indeed and I felt good writing it. Thanks for the stimulation I like this, Hope you find the answers that you really wanting to know but then you might get your answer from you friends thing as confirmation.
Good luck!
2006-12-20 10:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She understands that it's a problem she would deal with and not just end it. People step out for a lot of reasons (I don't like the term cheating, too broad), and if you find out why, you can work on it. Running away is easy, staying and working thru shows that you really care.
2006-12-20 16:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not cheating if the two agree on it. saying its wrong is for the two to allow it when they agree on it is stupid. People cheat due to the restraint of our most powerful emotion, Love. Marriage was not created by God, its man made. Love repressed is obsession. Let them do what they will, if they want to brave the dangers. She obviously understands the forgiveness of love more than you.
Everyone is obsessed with the institution of marriage but none want to admit the history behind it and that it goes against most every natural urge we have.
2006-12-20 09:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by liddycaliente 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is NEVER okay. I don't know what your friend is thinking, but I doubt she would actually feel that way if her husband did have an affair.
My husband and I both agree that if either one of us ever cheated it would be the end of our marriage. We cannot deal with sharing the affection that is meant for just us two.
2006-12-20 09:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FULLY agree with you. That person you know sounds like a doormat and her hubby prob already cheats on her. Who in the heck tells their man that cheating is okay?
I'm glad for women like you who have standards and don't put up with that kind of cr*p. So nice to know there are dignified women out there!
2006-12-20 09:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's normal. Maybe they have that kind of relationship but I still most people frown on it and someone found out the other was cheating that person would be gone.
2006-12-20 09:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
amen sista my grandmother says its ok to let a dog bite you once but you will be the fool if you let the same dog bite you twice she must have very low self esteem and she must suffer from a phobia of being alone so therefor she will settle for whatever that is how aids is being spreaded through out the world let her be dumb by herself she dont even deserve friends except for the girl who rides the yellow bus and lickes the window lol
2006-12-20 09:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who they are ...they are some people who can put up with anything in the name of love.....Because I believe if somebody cared and respected me he would never cheat on me. Just agreeing on something like this is inviting disaster in the relationship....It is wrong!!!
2006-12-20 09:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by mwihakz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is probably insecure and has low esteem, which makes anything her husband does ok. Or maybe she has secretly cheated on him and this is her way of justifying herself. Maybe this gives her an opportunity to cheat on him also.
2006-12-20 09:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋