I have taken courses, and it is true that people who live together before marriage or less likely to divorce. What is also true is that people who are not doing so because of religion have it ingrained in them that divorce is not an option, so they usually never do it anyway.
She and I both believe that because of our family values (neither of our parents have been divorced). So we are both in it for the long haul regardless. How can I convince her that living together will be the best decision for us?
2006-12-20 09:36:53 · 11 answers · asked by Cameron 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't convince her. If you're trying to change her morals that is embedded in her and those changed unless she wants to. If she doesn't want to move in it shouldn't be that big of a deal for you. Are you willing to break up because she won't move in? By her not moving in that is not sacrificing your morals now is it?
2006-12-20 09:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never take a step like that without testing the waters...Religious reasons??? have you slept together?? If you have then she's a hypocrite anyway.
"in it for the long haul regardless"...if she cheats? if you beat her?? If you grow apart??
I'm taking a wild guess that you're too young to be considering this step as it is. Take a HUGE step back and think long and hard about marriage...not enough people do anymore. It isn't about a ring and a party...it's about an equal partnership that is harder than you could ever imagine. It's about communication, about seeing eye to eye....and it's very little about religion.
2006-12-20 17:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by rattgrrrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont' try to convince her to do anything that she feels is morally wrong. True love means that you both want to do what's right for each other. She needs to know that you respect her and love her anyway. Just because so many people live together before marriage these days, doesn't make it right for you if one of you doesn't think it's right.
2006-12-20 17:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead but don't let the bride wear a white vail on your wedding day. C'mon, If you love her wait and do the right thing. If she doesn't want to live with you before marriage then respect her wish. Maybe she wants to make 'Her Day' super special. Remember since she was a small child they dream of this. Don't mess her up. Your marriage will be better with a good start don't you think?
2006-12-20 17:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by dj s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. SHE has the right to make her own choices in this matter whether you think you're right or not...and by the way it is not true that ALL peoople who live together before marriage stay married, my ex and I lived together before we were married notice I said EX...
2006-12-20 19:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she does not want to live together first, honor her wishes but make sure you date for a year or two and spend lots and lots of time with each other. true love will find a way and when all of a sudden you discover she's got some funny quirks after you are married, embrace them for that is who she is.......... true love over comes all
2006-12-20 17:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my man are both "living in sin" as the family puts it because we are both Roman Catholic.......we want to get married, but it is a SERIOUS committment for us, because it is for LIFE....we know that if we do ever marry, with the exception of infidelity, we stay together, no matter what.
2006-12-20 17:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT PUSH HER!! Show her what you have learned yourself, have deep talks, ask both sets of parents for advice..
2006-12-20 17:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the stupid ***** and find someone who isn't such a ******* ****.
2006-12-20 17:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen to your girlfriend and Wait.
2006-12-20 17:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋