had a three-year affair with another woman behind her back. She gave me the distinct impression he admitted this only on his deathbed as a way of getting things of his chest (while burdening her with the revelation). I tried not to disrespect his memory, but b/c she was being candid, I, also candidly, said adultery is not my idea of "love." Love isn't just about the emotion; it's about backing up your feelings with actions of love. Otherwise, the love is rather pointless.
Am I mistaken?
2006-12-20 09:31:02 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LEON, man, that is about the funniest answer I have EVER gotten to a Y!A question! LOL!
2006-12-20 09:39:30 · update #1
Nope, and she probably really hates him but is in full denial. By telling her on his deathbed he really made sure her emotions would get screwed up, it's hard to hate someone who is dying on you.
2006-12-20 09:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is it possible for someone to love someone & commit adultery? Maybe... there are those womanizers out there. Think of polygomists or how it was in biblical days when it was okay to have more than one wife & many concubines. :(
Also, think of Bill Clinton... Hiliary told people that they shouldn't judge her Christianity for staying with him. The bible says adultery is grounds for divorce, not mandatory. Clinton didn't have anything nice to say about the women he had affairs with after they were over even though he sweet-talked them & showered them with gifts while they were on.... MEN! Go figure!
Kinda reminds me of that movie with Richard Gere & that one actress... she loved her husband but just wanted the excitement of something new, kinda like reliving the glory days of dating, when dating someone new is exciting. When you live with someone 24/7 it gets kinda mundane-? looking for better word. Anyway, when having the affair, the "distance" of not seeing each other all the time makes the heart fonder & keeps it exciting -sneaking around, etc. I've seen plenty of celebs as an example of how/when they were cheating/having affairs they seemed happier, until they went for the person they were having an affair with full-time, back to same old, same old, like they had before. :)*
Great Dane, that'd be true love to God as God calls us to have... love & forgiveness is honoring the Lord & how he wills us to be.
2006-12-20 09:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nocine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right,love should be more than just a word. However,it is possible to love someone without being IN love with them. Sometimes people end up going outside the marriage to find the things they need. You will never know the truth of her situation,but you did well not to comment on it to her directly.
2006-12-20 09:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If she thinks that he loved her because he admitted to an affair she in my opinion is very wrong, yes he felt guilty about it but had he loved her in the first place he would have respected her enough not to have had an affair, people mistake fondness with love allot.
2006-12-20 09:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had any Love left at all for her he would have taken his secret to the grave. What a nasty twisted thing to do to anybody....isn't it bad enough he had the affair...but to go & tell her on his way out of the door is just so wrong.
2006-12-20 10:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. My husband cheated on me and I forgave him. Now we are more in love than what we were when we first got married. So she may have found a new kind of love with him and the last years, he dedicated himself to her. So I think she is telling the truth.
2006-12-20 09:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love means different things to different people. You are not mistaken, you just can't see any other belief apart from your own. Best not to question it, just accept that thats her way of seeing the situation
2006-12-20 09:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that matters is that *SHE* knew he loved her - You didn't know the details of their life together so you can't assume anything. If he's gone now - there's no reason to ruin her memory. It sounded like she just needed to get it off of her chest.
2006-12-20 09:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by karespromise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 08:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree but you have to admire that woman. Could you find it in your heart to forgive adultery? Maybe that is true love? I don't know...
2006-12-20 09:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋