i made a 13 year old girl pregnant. wat should i do. and im only 14! help me out please!!!
2006-12-20 09:17:54 · 21 answers · asked by K-Low 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was just out of trojans what should i do?
2006-12-20 09:22:22 · update #1
well see a doctor and a councilor. and speak with your parents.
2006-12-20 09:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
1st of all, Im not gonna knock you for doing it at that age, hell i started having sex at thirteen too, so I know how you feel and Im not gonna judge. I will, however, offer my advice from my life expiriances (Im 17) I go to an alternative (Continuation) school. Theres a program there for girls our age who get pregnant and it allows them to finish school and gives free child care during school hours. Its a really cool program! However, some girls choose abortion, which is killing your child in the womb. Ppl think its ok because they kill it before birth and think its not a valid life, which is stupid but whatever, some woman choose it. EVERY girl at school who chose it goes to a group therapy because they struggle with the guilt and suicidal feeling associated with this. Getting an abortion makes woman 62% more likely to commit suicide. I would personally say that is not a good thing to do, not the right option and definatly not ok.
Alright, first things first, what were you doing using trojans? THEY BREAK MORE OFTEN THAN ANY OTHER CONDOMS! because they are made in the USA and dont have to go through the rigorous testing that imported condoms do, use durex if you dont want any other kids. Im sorry this happend.
However, please support your girl on this. The worst thing a man can do is leave. Real men dont leave their woman when they are pregnant, dont let her feel lonely, because chances are she really already does. Look, be there for her. Do you want to be a man or want to be a boy?
Moving on, be there for the birth, even if you deciede adoption, becuase she'll really need you there hun. If you keep your child, you can still stay in school. I see ppl do it every day, its noble, but if you deciede to go into the workforce, thats cool too. ALso, keep your house clean! Very important for expecting mothers.
If you deciede adoption, contact an agancy and they will let you interview familys and pick which one you want your baby to go to, or you could let a family member raise it so you can still be there when he/she needs you, or you could contact me, I'll help you.
look, good luck, I hope everything goes smoothly, congrats and IM or email me @ metalstefl@yahoo.com
2006-12-20 17:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by metalstefl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Take a breather and relax and don't listen to anyone about being irresponsible........
My brother, Adam, got his girlfriend pregnant when she was 12....he was 15. My ma and pa freaked out but they just had to deal with it.....I mean, it is not like the baby was just going to diappear. Adam's girlfriend, Lucy, had to keep the baby. Her parents saw it as a punishment and Adam HAD to take the responsiblilty.
My advice is to tell your parents together and wish to high heavens that you don't get in too deep over your head. I wish the best for you....I am 22 with 2 kids and i am a single father so I sort of feel your pain. And step up and be a man.........be a father like your supposed to be, if you wren't....then that baby wouldn't have chose you!
2006-12-20 17:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy*Of*2 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ur need to get help asap your parents or hers but she needs to be seen by a dr. i believe your parents will discuss and until this is over which it never will be maybe you should keep it in your pants as well as let your buddys know to keep it in as well. A child is a blessing from God and even of your age i think it nice to say congrads and good luck. If you all do decide to be the parents and take care of the baby make sure your the best dad you can and that she is the best mom. it doesnt take much money it takes love and attention and for parents to be there for their child,
2006-12-20 17:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is going to be hard, but you need to finish school. You can do it. You should get a job as soon as you can and help support the child. I was 15 when I had my first child and I didn't have the father to help. So many girls get left alone when they get pregnant. Don't be a loser. Stay, help, LOVE.
2006-12-20 17:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kaari P 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm...Just 19 hours before you posted this, you posted another post about wanting an American girlfriend...have a look at your questions list as I'm sure others will do, and discover how childish you look.
So what is it your after...points for posting or attention...
Grow up and stop wasting peoples time with your BS
2006-12-20 19:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, you have no say in the matter. You are unmarried and underage. All you can do is talk to her about it, and both of you speak with your parents. Since you are unmarried you have no paternal rights. Whatever the girl and her parents decide to do, is what will likely be done, regardless of your wants.
If the baby is kept, and they allow you in its life, take care of it. You were man enough to have sex, you should be man enough to shoulder the responsibility.
2006-12-20 17:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by MommyLady 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Why oh why were you having sex? Your way too young. My advice, step up and get ready to be a father or talk to your childs mother and decide if you want to put it up for adoption. Dont opt for abortion please, thats the easy way out (not completely but thats another story) You knew what you were getting into when you had sex so its time to step up and take responsiblity for your actions.
Since you updated:
Why did you just not have sex if you were out of condoms? Please you have to be smarter than that.
2006-12-20 17:20:52 · answer #8 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think that you should be there for your child. I think it might be a good idea if you get a job if you dont already have one. I just think that if you know about this baby then you should definitaly be there
2006-12-20 17:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky91 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what you need to do is stay with her and take care of your kid a kid always needs a mom and dad that r together . and if you no how to have sex you should no how to take care of a kid if you dont then you dont need to be having sex.all i have to say is do your thing and take care of that baby
2006-12-20 17:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by lilmommy 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you were way to young. you need to talk to your parents and also her parents. why were you to havin sex anyway. you two are way to young and also you two need to sit down with both sets of parents and also you need to express the concersn you guys have and alos the options you have for the baby and yourself
2006-12-20 17:32:34 · answer #11 · answered by shelly2004grad 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋