My daughter seems to be developing a fear of strangers. Strangers to her seems to be everyone she doesn't see regularly. Is it possable, or is she to young? My son never did anything like this. She screams until whoever has her gives her to me. Any serious ideas of help.
2006-12-20 09:14:33 · 9 answers · asked by TIA 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My 4 month old son does the same thing. He is fine with his dad and me, but cries with everyone else (and they don't even have to hold him). My doctor said it is most likely NOT stranger anxiety, but fear of the intensity with which people approach him (direct eye contact very quickly, touching him immediately, funny voices, etc.). It seemed true on a recent visit to my in-laws where he usually screams. I carried him and his grandparents did not try to take him or talk to him immediately. They gave him a chance to observe and acquaint himself with everything & everyone. I sat next to people and chattig, letting him see them before they held him. He still cried a little with my mother-in-law, but overall a big improvement. Oh, yes, giving the holder a toy to entertain him helped as well. It took his attention away from the person trying so hard to engage him.
2006-12-20 15:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by C.D.N. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not likely, although she can recognize your face and smell..."stranger anxiety" (actual term) usually doesn't appear until 8 or 9 months. Were the "screams" with every stranger or just a few? Maybe the strangers scared her by being too loud, too close, or by wearing big hat or something a physical nature. I would search the internet for more information, childhood development is a large subject with tons of information, good luck!
2006-12-20 17:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by amor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was like that too for a while she is slowly starting to get over it but i guess in a way that it is a good thing for children to be afraid of strangers with all the psychotic people who try to steal babies now a days
2006-12-20 19:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by kierstensmom102705 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry about it. I had a niece when at that age would scream like Satan just stepped in the room when i would come over to visit. She did not like strangers or even relatives who werent around her everyday at all. It was almost funny, i would stick my head in the room she was in and it would instantly start. Then when i jumped back out she would quit crying. Once she got around a year old and noticed her brothers and sisters playing with me she realized i wasnt a bad guy and outgrew it.
2006-12-20 17:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 months is early for this. She'll adapt. She just wants mom. Let her know that you are here and available for her comfort. When you are handing her to someone that she doesn't know, first talk to the person, then sit close to the person so she will know that you are near. Maybe even hug the person. Little things so that she knows that the stranger is not a stranger to you. Then hang close and comfort her when she calls for you.
2006-12-20 17:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by smartygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter went through stranger anxiety around that age too, but at the age of 14 months, she is completely over it! Just gotta wait it out!
2006-12-20 17:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Autumn S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with my son around seven months. It is normal. It was even people he saw regularly.
2006-12-20 17:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's more like, she's old enough to know YOU, and she wants YOU!!! Congrants, baby loves you! I don't know what to tell you, my little girl, 18 months old, doesn't like for people she doesn't know to even look at her! She just tries to get me or her daddy to pick her up. It's cool, you've already got a head start on the we-don't-talk-to-strangers bit.
2006-12-20 17:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
this happens to every child around this time. they develop the ability to recognize people and when they dont, it scares them.
2006-12-20 17:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by spot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋