I feel like I am going crazy!?

Question

I am getting so sick and tired of staying home and never going anywhere. I had my daughter on the first and I haven't seemed to go hardly anywhere since. My hubby is working two jobs and is hardly ever home. He is gone from 7 in the morning till 9 at night. He works 7 days a week and so we hardly ever see each other. I am just getting tired of never doing anything anymore. I love my daughter to death but it gets depressing when you wake up and stay in your pajamas all day because what is the use of getting dressed when you aren't planning on going anywhere anyways. We don't have much money since I am on maternity leave so it's not like we can go out shopping or anything. I just want a chance to get dressed up and go somewhere and have a good time. The worst part is that I have lost my pg weight plus some so I feel great and want to show it off. Can anyone relate and does anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

I completely understand. I felt similar while I was on maternity leave. I was used to working full-time and then having a full schedule on the weekends as well. Fortunately, my husband did not work such long hours, so I still was able to spend some time with him. Congrats on losing the pregnancy weight already - that is amazing!! My advice would be to call a family member or friend and ask them to stay with the baby, even if it is only for a few hours or so. You don't have to spend a lot of money, just get out and window shop or take a walk. Secondly, if at all possible, ask your husband to come home early one day or take a Saturday night off and go out. Once again, you don't have to spend a lot of money to have a good time. For my husband and I, just being together is enough, especially since we had our son. Just go for a drive, park and talk. Go to dinner if you can afford it; you can eat fairly cheap if you pick the right things off the menu and drink water instead of coke, etc... Good luck and congrats! Hang in there; it does get better. I know everyone says that, but they say it because it really is true!

Answer 2

I know how you feel...I felt like the walls were closing in on me especially since my husband is gone a lot as well. If you have friends, give them a call and arrange times to get together like for lunch at their house or your house. Go to the park and walk with your baby, this has worked great for me. Even going to the mall and walking around is great, you don't have to buy anything but it is nice just to window shop. Join a mother's day out group or the likes where you can meet people with kids and have something to relate to. The library is another place to go where you don't have to spend any money. Just a few ideas. Good luck and hang in there.