I've been with him for six years and we've now been apart for a month. I wasn't faking beeing in love with him so I have some days better than others I guess. He won't speak to me unless its a screaming match and he won't be honest. I have always felt like are honesty with each other would really keep us strong but I quess i was the only one being honest. He won't even give back all my things
2006-12-20 08:59:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know what you are going thru been there done that. Whatever you do don't do a 3some thats just nasty and i wouldn't recommend it to anyone. I've never done that and I don't suggest you do it either. You are gonna have more bad days ahead but you did nothing wrong so you have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. He cheated with a man so did mine but you will get over it trust me. Time heals all wounds even this one. Keep praying and asking God for strength and HE will carry you thru this situation. Don't take him back no matter what.
2006-12-20 09:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Cut your losses and let go of this relationship. As for the things he hasn't given you back, unless they're things like family heirlooms or items of great monetary value, ask yourself this: is the grief of trying to get them back worth it? If the answer is "no," then let go.
2. Go get yourself tested for HIV, if you haven't already. You have no way of knowing if your boyfriend has been honest with you about his relationships with other men. Get an HIV test ASAP, because if he has infected you, the sooner you start treatment the better off you are.
3. Allow yourself to mourn the demise of the relationship in your own way, at your own pace. You have lost something huge. It's going to hurt for a while. Nothing is going to change that, and nothing is wrong with that. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself-- cut down on other stress factors in your life, use your friends/family for emotional support, and concentrate on taking care of yourself. Do things you enjoy, small things certainly, big things if you can.
4. Don't hurry to get into another relationship. Until you understand what the flaws/failings in your last relationship were, until you are capable of being happy by yourself, you are emotionally vulnerable and this is something, unfortunately, that all kinds of jerks, abusers, con artists and other bad people can pick up on. Good people will understand and wait for you to heal, so take your time and be happy by yourself.
Good luck.
2006-12-20 09:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years is a long time to know and understand a person. I suggest you move on with your life since you're already parted for a month. My dear lady, you don't have to go through the screaming matches just move-on. You'll meet someone who deserves your love more. Take this as a lesson learned.
2006-12-20 09:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Well that has to be painful. If I were you I would just cut my losses and move on. Forget the stuff he won't give back to you. His karma will catch up with him one day... for cheating and lying. You deserve better. Move on with your life. The best revenge is a good life!
2006-12-20 09:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-20 09:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by dce1dg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call the cops to help get back your things. After the law gets involved it's pretty much over. If you have exhausted all efforts to get the truth and work things out you have no choice but to leave.
2006-12-20 09:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys were just fighting, then honestly, its time for the relationship to end. i know that's gotta be hard, especially after 6 years, but he's obviously interested in men now, and not you. that doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't still care about you though.
my ex and i constantly fought, but now that we're broken up, we're pretty much best friends and its just fine.
2006-12-20 09:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by john_deeregirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore him and get a new better honest bf who really loves u. Also u can sue that guy if u really hate him
2006-12-20 09:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by hamster gurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 6 yrs why are you not married, ? he had sex with a dud and you left and were not smart enough to get all your things then. you screwed yourself there. go to the police and tell them you want your stuff from your old place but are scared to go by your self. the relationship is over.
2006-12-20 09:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should probably leave him because it doesn't seem like he loves you. And plus I would recommend not having sex with him especially unprotected because he could have an std from having sex with another man.
2006-12-20 09:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by C.W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋