My EX and I sepperated in April of this year. She just text'd me asking if I was going to get her anything for Christmas from our daughter (she is 3). I text'd back "Why, is that going to effect what you do?" Then she sent back all types of "colorful" words. Is it right that she only do it if I do? Was I ok to ask her that? I already knew that I wasn't going to get her anything.
2006-12-20 08:51:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For heaven's sake.... you don't want to give your own 3 year old baby daughter a Christmas gift?
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I re-read your question. If $5 dollars will buy you peace, then do it. You don't have to spend a ton on this, some families do this, some oathers don't. If you did this while together, then stick to it. A good example is always good to give; besides, as the child grows and she would be still too young for an allowance, she will feel frustrated not to be able to give mommy anything...
I don;t do it at home and for me, the geifts that my baby brings from school mean the world to me and are more than plenty.
Good luck
2006-12-20 08:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you not get her a little something and put your daughters name on it? Now is a good time to start being your ex's friend, as your daughter is not going to stay young forever. Is she sees that the two of you can and do get along it will make her life a lot happier and you won't have to stumble for an answer why when she asks, or give a total lame reason why you aren't getting her a gift. So yes, you should have gotten one and been the bigger person.
2006-12-20 17:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by motherof two 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 3, I would say your daughter is a bit young to be worrying about getting a xmas present for her parents anyway. It's something you might have done as a token thing if you were still together, but as you are separated, I really don't think it's necessary.
If the mother wants your daughter to get her something, she can actually organize that herself, by taking the child to the store, pretending not to see when she chooses something, etc. It really doesn't have to involve you at all. It would only involve you like I said if you were still together with the mother. When the child gets older, she may want to buy something for her mother (and you) by herself with her money, etc, but really at this age it isn't a requirement, and this is just your ex trying to make trouble.
2006-12-20 17:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by helly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People without kids just don't understand the concept of buying a gift so your child can say that they gave it to their bother/sister/mom/dad/dog/grand ma/grand pa/ etc....
Interesting question. Did you buy your ex a gift for her birthday so your daughter who is 3 could say she got her a gift? If you didn't do it then I don't see why you would now.
FYI, ex's have the right to mad at anything they want, but that doesn't need to bother you. You did fine, but maybe a little tackless in your reply.
2006-12-20 17:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol i don't think everyone read your question right.. guys he not saying he was not going to get his daughter anything he was saying he was not going to get his ex anything ..and put his daughter name on it..IE.. to mommy from child..but since this is the first Christmas you two are alone she problem did not want to get you something if you were not going to get her something.. that is a personal choice..you don't have to get her anything if you don't want to.. but i would have gotten her something small ..like under 10 dollars that is what i do for my daughter and my ex dose the same thing..but this year my child turns 15 so i will just give her the money and let her pick something out for him..
2006-12-20 17:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may have answered this wrong. Perhaps it could have been asked a different way because it sounded very snappy. YOU may not want to give her anything but it may be nice to get something from your daughter. I am in this same situation and I just got something for him from my daughter because it is something that she would love doing-- being able to give her dad a gift from her.
2006-12-20 17:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by mydds07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your EX are no longer together and yes you have a daughter together but I mean it does not mean you have to buy your EX something from the daughter if you do not want to. All of a sudden she texts you since April? She probably just wanted to see if you would of got her something. You were right in my opinion. You should get your daughter something from Daddy but the mother is your past!!!
2006-12-20 16:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, i don't guess you care what my opinion is but i'll give it to you anyway, it seems like she is using your baby girl a little too convienently for a gift and if a woman asks that type of question, then she either wants to hang on to you or is just seeking attention. don't get her anything unless you want her back cause if you do, she'll think you want her.
2006-12-21 16:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tiny little hot one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is custom that the child get the parents (each of them) a gift for Christmas. So clearly you decided that your child didn't need to get anything for her mother. If this continues... your child will think you.... a few choice words later in life.
2006-12-20 16:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She was probably asking so you guys would not buy duplicate gifts and waste money that she doesn't have because you have not paid any child support yet because you are not divorced and the court has not ordered it. So yeah, you were wrong.
2006-12-20 16:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋