okay so i am a white 20 yr old female and i date black males. i get a lot of crap and some looks when ppl find out i date a black male. why is it such a big deal. God created all of us and we all bleed the same color blood. we are just different shades. but the one thing that rly annoys me is i get it mostly from older white adults and younger black females. why is it they can't get ova it. it is not them that is dating him its me. why does it matter to them what i do with my life. I mean what is the big deal. So how do i deal with this and stand up for myself and him???
2006-12-20 08:43:43 · 10 answers · asked by khester05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm a black female and I say if you can't handle the criticism from the haters and losers..you will never succeed in an inter-racial relationship. YOU have to have thicker skin because their are still LOTS of idiots in the world that just dont get it! Ignore them, tell them to f*uk off! YOU have to be strong and not let these a-ho's dictate your relationship.
2006-12-20 08:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear...
Some (some) Black females think that you are taking something that rightfully belongs to them, by dating Black males.
Some (some) white people think that Black men are inferior in some way, and wonder why it is that you can't find a good white boy to date.
The bottom line, however, is that neither of these two groups are even worth a second thought. Their thoughts are evil, narrow-minded, and plain wrong. Why should a caring, compassionate person such as yourself be concerned with what they think??
The Buddha once said:
"If you try to give someone a present, and they don't accept it, does it not come back to you?"
A monk answered, "Yes, my lord"
"Then it is the same when someone insults you. If you do not accept it, it returns to them in the same way"
When people say or think bad things about you, and you choose not to accept them, they will come back to them in other ways, later. This concept is called Karma. Whether you are a Christian, Jew, Buddhist, or Muslim, Karma is a real force in this world. Bad people are punished, in this life or the next, for their evil thoughts, words, and deeds.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-20 08:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by no ability. i have dated a lot of alternative races beforehand. I do word that i imagine about the couples more beneficial than I do races that date the same race. Like when I see a black guy with a white female I continually ask your self (stereotypical, i understand) is she after a huge weiner? Or is she after his money? Or does he imagine that is a standing element? when I see an asian guy with a black female I continually anticipate he has money and is self-confident. i wager I have a aspect to me which will continually be extremely stereotypical, yet i'm basically being straightforward. It would not worry me although- basically makes me imagine. i'm white and maximum of my bf's were mexican or Philipino, so in accordance to that, there is not any secret to those interracial couples, so i do not even think about. under no circumstances been with a black guy, so i wager my inexperience has extra about lack of understanding. Love is love, and that i'm basically satisfied at the same time as all of us unearths it with all of us.
2016-12-01 00:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by england 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even in today's world, interracial dating is still quite difficult. I don't think people can honestly get over the fact that interracial dating is going to happen. I have dated all kinds of races myself and still run into difficulty. The only thing I can tell you is to try to shut out the rest of the world and concentrate on the solid relationship that you have. If it is special then it will carry you through any difficulty.
2006-12-20 09:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jacinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with the previous answer. I have a friend who only dates black males because she is only attracted to black males. She is white but not attracted to anyone else.
People can be very narrow minded. Try to be strong...simply ignore them unless someone says something rude to you or your boyfriend.
2006-12-20 08:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by mbon:) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well color of skin doesn't define a person & your compatability together..... Just as long as your looking for the right things in a person/mate, color has nothing to do with it.....really its no one's business, don't worry what people think, As long as YOU are in a mature relationship & its not about attention or anything stupid like that.
2006-12-20 08:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by tygger in pa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the younger black girls are probably jealous that you are dating someone they possibly feel taht they have the "rights to date".
but the older white people shouldnt be in your business.
i agreee with you and its your choice.
people shouldnt be bothered with what others do but if they are bothered they should keep it to themselves.
i would tell the people who are offended that we're all people and it shouldnt make a difference who we date. and that [in a tactful way] its really isnt any of their business what you do. its not like youre endangering yourself or anyone else. they cant chose who you love.
good luck.
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2006-12-20 08:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a couple who looked so adorable together. She's white 4'11 & he's over 6ft & black. When they get looks they stare right back until the other people stop looking.
2006-12-20 08:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore them, thats the best thing that you can do. show them that you dont care what they think about you. theres nothing more i can say but yeh its sad how ppl cant get over it. its the 21st century, race shouldnt be an issue anymore
2006-12-20 08:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Fabregas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you date ONLY black males? If so, you may be doing it to get attention.
2006-12-20 08:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sean 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋