The age gap doesn't bother any of us, but what bothers me is that everytime he's in front of his friends, he acts like a macho jerk with little care for me and finds it hard to say 'I love you' to me in front of them too. Is it normal for guys to act like this?
2006-12-20 08:42:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's normal but not excusable. Tell him if he can't respect you as his signifiacnt other in front of his friends then he has to go. If he's acting this way in front of you what is he telling them without you around. You don't have to put up with that and you should tell him.
2006-12-20 08:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to say: yes.
Saying "I love you" is an intensely personal thing, and most guys will do just about anything to avoid saying it in public. I'm happily married and I still usually wiggle out of it when she hangs up the phone with an "I love you" - she thinks it's cute, actually, how I do that (perhaps because I'm usually not macho at all!).
If it's bothering you, however, you need to talk to your boyfriend. Just because something is normal doesn't make it OK.
2006-12-20 16:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's just who he is...
One question though, how long is "a while"? To me, a while is maybe, four months... after that amount of time he still might be a little uncomfortable with letting go of his masculine "macho" side... but if he really loves you and you tell him how you feel then he'll change. If not, then he's not the one for you!!! Some boys say what they mean no matter where they are.
2006-12-20 16:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Pyrai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the age gap bothers the macho jerk or he wouldnt be treating you like that. Spare your feelings and ditch him before yours are in tatters. Seems to those jerks always kissy-kissy in private, but in a crowd it's suddenly "Where did you come from, baby?". Better fish swimming in the ocean, darling.
2006-12-20 16:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by miladybc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has an Alpha male complex. I'd know, as I used to be very Alpha myself.
When he's around his friends, it sounds like he's embarrassed about his relationship with you.
Kinda lame really - I've dated/lived with women as much as ten years younger than me, and sometimes things would get awkward because she wasn't as well educated as some of my friends. So conversations sometimes became uncomfortable.
You really should talk to him about it, and ask him to please not do that to you.
Its unfair to you and disrespectful of you as well.
As for whether or not this is normal, yes a lot of guys do behave that way. I know that when I was in college I tended to behave that way with a gf who was 5 years younger than me... looking back, I really regret that... she would have made a wonderful wife if I hadn't been such an as*hole.
So talk to him, find out what's going on in his head. Hopefully the two of you can work this out - and he can say 'I Love You' in front of his friends.
-dh
2006-12-20 16:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO this isn't normal. If I may give a word of advise: Find a better and more inteligent guy than this neanderthal sweetly. He doesn't deserve you, exspecially if he acts like this in front of his friends.
2006-12-20 16:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by mangamaniaciam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys do act like this because they don't want to appear "whipped". Tell him you don't like the way he's treating you if that doesn't work give him a taste of his medicine. Treat him the way he's treating you. He won't like it either. But if you are just wanting him to be all lovey dovey it's not going to happen. Don't expect him to be all over you and telling you he loves you and all that.
2006-12-20 16:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by fiestyredhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't respect you or your relationship. If he can't profess is love for you from mountain tops in front of friends, family, etc... maybe you need to re-evaluate the relationship.
2006-12-20 16:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jayda J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope thats not normal.....thats really rude and disrespectful i might add....My husband is 12 years older then me iam only 20...and he treats me like a princess everywhere we go...Just let him know how that makes you feel and trust me he will no next time not to make you feel unappreciated...
2006-12-20 16:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by R.J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....i hate to say it....but it's true for a lot of guys....I am one of the lucky ones who found a guy who is not ashamed of saying "I love you" in front of his friends.....maybe you should talk to him about it and ask him if he's ashamed of you or embarassed to say that he loves you...because if he says yes...then honestly....he really doesn't deserve you at all. You want a guy who loves you for you and is not ashamed to say that he loves you:)
~*hope this helps*~
2006-12-20 16:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋