Most of my friends got married and had kids in their 20's. I focused on my career. Does anyone else fit into this scenario?
2006-12-20 08:40:22 · 17 answers · asked by diva 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
34 no kids, never married. I have been told over and over I am a great catch, but it seems like every guy I date ends up marrying someone else within months after breaking up with me...if not while still dating me! I am a young 34, my career is a very fun one and sometimes I think that other guys my age or a little older are too "old" for me. But the younger ones never want anything serious....Yes, I cry myself to sleep. The holidays are hard this year, once again.
2006-12-20 09:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsouth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A dear friend of the family is now 37 and single (never married) w/ no kids. He just hasn't found the right lady.
Another friend of mine just turned 30 never married and no children. Also, he just hasn't found the right woman. He's a good man, teacher at a high school, catholic, virgin and a whole list of other decent things.
Women however, I have found less of that fit in that scenario. Most are divorced at the least, or have had children out of wedlock. (nothing wrong with it....) But it doesn't fit in with the perimeters you have listed.
My best friend however meets your requirements. West Point Officer, not married, no kids, just turned 30. She dates heavily, but is not looking to get married just yet.
2006-12-20 09:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, goodness, I know so many women in this situation, and some of them are happy about it. I just got married for the first time and I'm in my thirties. I have no children. I remember a kid once asking me what was the hold up, since all the women he knew over 20 had kids. I told him there were other things I wanted to do first. Hopefully I helped this child stave off parenthood for a bit!
2006-12-20 09:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Twin momma as of 11/11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, lots of people! I focused on graduate school and my career, dated a lot of interesting guys, but didn't get married until my late 30s. Neither of us wants kids, and I think people who get married later, after they've been "around the block" a while, are better suited to settling down and being committed to that one person.
2006-12-20 08:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 30 and never been married, but I do have kids.
Now I wonder if I will ever get married because I don't know if I can find a man who is willing to love me and my children ( I have 5 of them) because it's a lot to take on.
Consider yourself lucky not to have to worry about that, he'll just have to love you for you and be able to make babies with you when you're ready instead of jumping into a ready made family.
2006-12-20 12:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 31, never been married and no kids. My boyfriend's 35, never married, no kids. There are tons of us out there...in fact, I don't know a lot of people who settled down in their 20s.
Then again, I have always lived in big cities, where people tend to wait to get married.
2006-12-20 08:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Peace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two of my friends that fit your scenario.
Bachelorette #1. 34. Accountant. Great high profile job. Very smart. No boyfriend since 2003. Ages since the last time she got some. Spends all her money on clothes and in gifts for everybody else. Crys herself to sleep everynight with a tub of Ben and Jerry's.
Bachelorette #2. 37. Architech. Very pretty, great job. No boyfriend since 2003. Fantasizes with long distances relationships. Cries in the firms bathroom because she is so lonely and times is running out for marriage and kids. Been called and "old maid".
In both cases. men feel that if they earns more money than them, they should not date her and assume that if she is not married already, something "must be wrong with her".
Good luck
2006-12-20 08:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was 30 when I had my last child, but then again I have no career. Just a good mother who will hopefully have another full life to live when I'm 48 and all my kids are grown!
2006-12-20 08:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. My wife and I got married one year ago. She was 31 I was 34. Neither of us has any kids. This is my second marriage but her first. We both have PhDs so, yes we also focused on career first.
2006-12-20 08:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a girl I work with like that. 35 and never married no kids.
She is miserable. She has affairs with married men. She wants to be married but her mindset is wrong - it's all about her.
Understand that the kind of men you are going to find at your age and career development are going to be different.
You know, it IS possible for people to develop their career while married and having children. My wife and I married and put ourselves through school and now she is a fraud investigator in an insurance company and I am a PhD chemist.
2006-12-20 08:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋