as a friend only in a sort of plantonic friendship is it acceptable?
2006-12-20 08:40:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have quite a few men as friends at it has never been a problem to me, or my bloke, or their gfs / wives. But you need to make the boundaries clear and make sure it's purely friendship.
2006-12-20 08:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you are also willing to be a friend to his wife too - and of course it is strictly platonic on his behalf too.
the danger is, if he is confiding thoughts to you (about how he truely feels about his life/relationship/concerns), then he has crossed a line. these things should be discussed with his wife.
if you have any doubts about this friendship then stay away. if you feel uncomfortable about things you discuss then stay away. the fact you are asking suggests you may have some doubt about this friendship.
ask him and his wife out for drinks. his reaction should reveal his feelings. if you are not a secret to his wife then there should not be any problem, but if you are somehow (unwittingly) filling a void in his life then i doubt he would take you up on the offer.
good luck and tread carefully!
2006-12-20 09:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by lillyflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you met his wife yet? Does your married friend plan to introduce you to his wife?
I think if the answer to these questions is yes, then it is possible.
But if he hasn't, or has no plans to, & you find yourself attracted to him, then you could find yourself very quickly having an affair with this man.
Then you have to be prepared for the consequences of your actions.
2006-12-20 09:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok to have a married man as a FRIEND full stop.You have to remember they are unavailable other wise you got big trouble you dont need . cheers
2006-12-20 08:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by not a mused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Minimoto is right - don't let it get too close.
If either of you is lying about any aspect of the friendship to his wife, then it needs to stop.
2006-12-20 08:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as its just a friendship. but if his wife doesn't know about you then i wud remain at arms length. but as someone else has sed, it he is confiding in you instead of his wife then i wud question what it is he wants from you.
2006-12-20 09:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At arms length and don't cross the line
2006-12-20 08:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES IT IS IM NOT MARRIED BUT INGAGED TO BE. AND I HAVE A FEW WOMEN THAT R REAL GOOD FREINDS
2006-12-20 10:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by karl w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u wanna do girl. but be prepared to pay the price.
2006-12-20 08:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is YOUR choice who will be your friends!
2006-12-20 08:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋