is it okay to be concerned?

Question

if my friend had a baby at 13 3 months early and she wont talk to no one?? what do i do to help her since her parents dont know

the baby died after 4 1/2 hours and she left the hospital was that normal or do they have to to tests

her parents are drunks and her real mom is in russia and dont care..its not a damn joke

Answer 1

Thats pretty normal but the poor girl. She should have been able to bury her baby and grieve properly. Just try to be supportive of her. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help her. She probably needs some counseling but you cant force her to go and maybe mentioning it her will drive her further from you.

Answer 2

She needs to have some kind of grief counseling, and possibly be treated for Post-partum depression. At her age being on antidepressants is not really a good idea as they are meant for adults and can cause more harm than good to kids. How could she be in the hospital and have a baby and be 6 months along and her parents not know what is going on? Did they not get a bill from the hospital?I lost a baby girl in Aug at 21 weeks and depression is normal after something like this. She definitely needs some kind of help.

Answer 3

what did she do with the baby? If she is 13 and the baby was 3 months early it has to be in the hospital. I think you should tell her parents, if she is your friend she will understand you did it because you love her. If this a joke you should be ashamed of yourself.

Answer 4

wait until she comes out of her depression a little. she'll let you know when she is ready to socialize again. sometimes they feel guilty. let her know it's not her fault, sometimes the lord just needs his angle's back. don't tell her you understand they'll maker her mad. just be there for her to cry on you. if you feel it's really getting to a point after a few months that she's not willing to come back to the world of socialization ask her if she'll be OK with seeking a support group or therapy. let her know it's OK to ask for help. it's the most terrible thing any one can ever to through, be supportive. I've dealt with 2 baby deaths in my family. it's not ever going to be all right but it will stop hurting so much after a while.

Answer 5

Losing a child is one of the hardest things to go through. All you can do is tell her you are there for her if she needs you. Sometimes, fear of rejection from a parent, especially in these difficult times, can be just as hard to deal with. Give her space to adjust to this tragedy, but LET HER KNOW that if there is ANYTHING you can do for her, you will be there. That's all you can do. Tell her I'm so sorry for her loss.

Answer 6

Ok, you should prolly be a little concerned. I would talk to her parents about it. It is prolly a little dangerous to just leave, she'll prolly have to go back for check-ups. Talk to her about it before her parents though. You need to tell her that you are there for her. She needs to be comforted. Then tell her that you can help her talk to her parents. This is all you really can do.

Answer 7

That is so sad to hear.....if I were you i would let your friend know that you are there for her and give her all the support that you can in her time of grief

Answer 8

Just be there for her when she needs to talk. Offer to go to counselling with her, go to her doctors appointments with her- just let her know that you care.
My sympathies to your friend :)

Answer 9

what does she do keep it in the sock drawer? come on get serious.

Answer 10

let her know you are there for her