Am I wrong... **I hate Nintendo Wii**!?

Question

Ok. So my husband and I bought a wii, it was fun at first, we played some games, it was cool. But hes HOOKED on this madden game. He plays it every single day after work from 230-630, and I get home at 5 and cant watch TV, Cant talk to him, Cant ask him anything because he is BUSY. Usually If I ask him to do something around the house, like vacuum, or sweep, or clean the bathroom, He does it... BUT NOT NOW! Now, when I ask him if he swept, or vacuumed, He'll say, Nope, maybe tomorrow. And IT NEVER GETS DONE!! I do stuff all the time without being asked, and now we are arguing about this. He says Im nagging, and I tell him "it wouldnt be nagging if you would do it one of the first few times I have to ask you!"

HOW DO I GET MY HUSBAND TO ACT LIKE HE USE TO????? WITHOUT DESTROYING THE WII???

I dont want to be arguing with him right before xmas.... Should I just give in and NOT ask him to do anything. We both work full time, and I go to school too... Im not asking much!

Answer 1

I'm no life coach... in fact I'm just usually answering people's questions about the Wii when I came across your question. Without knowing all the exact details and his point of view I cant defend him or support you but one thing is for certain. How you feel about the situtation is 100% true. Your husband cant deny your feelings and how you feel like he is neglacting his duties. In order to avoid the "nagging" syndrome, try to avoid starting a sentance with "You use to" "You never"... generally "You" sentenaces are bad. Secondly, don't blame this problem on the Wii. There are a number of things that could occupy your husband's time other then a video game console, this just is the issue today. When your husband isn't playing/distracted, try talking to him about chores then and have him agree to do them by a certain time. Trying to get anything out of someone while they are distracted is an uphill battle/fight waiting to happen. If he fails to do it by the alloted time that you two agree, talk about how you feel you can trust him/rely on him, not about how he messed up. Husbands like to know they can take care of their wives. And oh finally... I learned this one with a fight with my wife... never pick a fight/get angry at him while he is doing a chore. He feels he is already helping out and if you put him down while he believes he is helping it makes him feel a little betrayed and unnoticed.

Finally, arguments always come at a bad time, there is no such thing as a good time to argue. There is however a good way to argue. Rather then trying to explain the good rules of engagement with my limited vocabulary and lack of eloquence, I refer you to your local super chain bookstore.

Answer 2

its a phase it might go away.I'm the same way.but i do dish's,mop,laundry, i do it all............no don't give in