Here's the situation...a bunch of friends went out bar hopping. I went home with one of the guys we were out with. Well, we were both intoxicated, both into it..but even though I tried all my best tricks he still didn't climax. I wound up leaving, I have seen him once since and it was kind of ackward. We didn't talk about it, I'm not sure how fuzzy the night was for him, etc. I just can't stop thinking about it. I want to try it again, without so much to drink...but don't know exactly how to approach it. I will see him in a couple of weeks as classes start up again. Please give me some suggestions...or thoughts from a mans approach.
2006-12-20 08:32:22 · 12 answers · asked by brevly 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No one can perform if they've had too much booze. There's a reason it's called "whiskey d--k". I doubt it'd happen again sober. (Unless he's really straight.)
Update:
You could go with humor and say you two still have unfinished business and you're intending to finish it.
2006-12-20 08:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by kickbutt 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yep, too much liquor will do it every time. You know, I'd just ask him out on a date when classes start back and see where it goes from there. Don't try to push it, just let things take a natural course
I'm bi, but have sworn off men in order to be with the wonderful person who is now my best friend, partner and wife. But I had a similar experience about sixteen years ago. Too much booze and things didn't finish the way either of us had hoped. But the next week we got together and joked about it and laughed it off. Things DID work out the second time!
2006-12-20 16:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you'd like to have another "date" without all the booze and see if there are any "sparks" between the two of you. I quit drinking a long time ago so I could remember all the good times and not have those headaches the morning after.
2006-12-20 16:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Happens to most everyone at some time or another. Can't "finish" because of alcohol, drugs, nervousness, or just ejaculated soon before this time, masturbates often and difficult to "finish" when they have "regular" sex.
2006-12-20 16:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet the problem was that you guys were drinking and he might not have been totally comfortable.
Talk to him about it and tell him you would like to give it another try. The worst he could say is no thanks.
2006-12-20 16:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Yikes! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An invitation to your place should serve your purpose. If he agrees to come, start afresh, as if nothing happened before; if not let it be. Have happy and healthy holidays.
2006-12-20 16:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's probably worried that it was his fault (too drunk, whatever) that he couldn't come. Everybody's insecure. He may very well be thinking you're grossed out by him, etc.
My rule: Always be chill. If you act like it's all cool, it probably will be.
No worries.
2006-12-20 16:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by almoagnadna 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with either one of you. Alcohol drops your blod pressure and men just can't perform.
2006-12-20 16:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AS YOU SAID:YOU WERE BOTH INTOXICATED.
ON YOU IT HAD HARDLY ANY AFFECT AT ALL.
BUT THE OTHER DUDE COULD NOT C UM.
THIS IS VERY COMMON.
DON'T FEEL AWKWARD.
IF THIS IS A SERIOUS QUESTION YOU ARE WELCOME TO USE THE MESSENGER:IF NOT DON'T BOTHER:
GREETING:ROB.
2006-12-20 16:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him u want morem mayb hell agree
2006-12-20 17:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by LuvU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋