k so me and one of my freinds have been like best freinds since like second grade! we've been there for eachother for lkke everything. i''m also really good freinds with her family! well the thing is when we started highschool this year everything changed. we hasven't talked to eachother that much. we never see eachother. we only talk if we need too! i was wondering if i should get her a x-mas gift or not? im so confused on what to do. i feel like we arent as good of friends anymore!
2006-12-20 08:25:44 · 11 answers · asked by Margaret W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You buy gifts for people because it comes from your heart, not because it's whats expected of you or you think they're getting you something. Growing up, friends loose touch but it doesn't always make them less a friend. If you think of her as your friend, buy from your heart.
2006-12-20 08:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She probably feels the same way. I've lost a couple of very good friends over school transitions, don't repeat my mistake!
Listen, childhood friendship is deep, it's basically next to family. You've got a lot of memories there, but you are both trying to expand and grow as people at the same time. You are expanding your social circle and so is she.
My advice is to call her up to hang out with you. Yes, get her a present too. Tell her that you're a little worried about you guys growing apart; most likely she will echo your feelings. If she doesn't, then maybe the friendship is going to fizzle into nothing, you have to accept that too.
2006-12-20 16:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this myself.
If you're still interested in being her friend, I'd suggest getting something inexpensive and little, like a pretty bracelet or something for her hair, or lotion/perfume and include a card with a message like:
"Just thinking of you around Christmas and wanted to let you know that I miss talking with you and hope we can spend more time together in 2007."
That's not needy, doesn't require a response unless she wants to, and also covers you in case she has gotten you a gift. If she hasn't, you look generous!
If you do NOT want to be friends with her anymore, I wouldn't worry about getting her a gift, but perhaps having a card on hand in case she does have something for you; regardless of how close you are now, she was an important friend to you and you shouldn't be rude to her.
I hope this helps you make your decision! Good Luck!
2006-12-20 16:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by maryeforeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get the gift and see how things turn out. At least you know that you did everything to try and salvage the friendship between the two of you.
2006-12-20 16:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by PaLAuSKi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had been in a fight with my friend 4 awhile and we made up last week. i was wonderin the same thing so i simply went up 2 her and asked if she wanted 2 xchange gifts thats what u should do just ask her feelins about the subject
2006-12-20 16:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be growing apart. Which is normal.
I would buy her a gift. . .absolutely. She obviously meant something to you and had an impact on your life. It's a win/win if you buy her a gift. She'll at least know you appreciate her. . .or what you had as friends.
When in doubt. . .go for kindness.
2006-12-20 16:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by YuckItUp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me when I got into high school. I think you should just get her something nice but small, just to tell her that you still care and still see her as a friend, even if you guys aren't as close as you used to be.
2006-12-20 16:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Trackstar05 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not invite her out for an outting on the weekend instead? Take it from there. If she is a true friend ,,she will find the time within 2weeks.
2006-12-20 16:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. They say "it is better to give than to receive".
2006-12-20 16:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well like i don't know like what you should like do.
2006-12-20 16:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋