My friend's parents just got divorced and she wont let me hear the end of it. She naggs me all day about how she is so sad that her parents are divorced and sobs all over me. Sometimes i just feel that right now, i am not the friend she is looking for to cry all over. Once i had to give up a concert with my boyfriend to stay home and hand her tissues while she goes on with her sob story. How do i get her off my back?
2006-12-20 08:21:42 · 24 answers · asked by tz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she is a best friend, you need to be there for her through rough times. It will return to you when you have rought times. If you don't consider her to be that good of a friend, then tell her you will devote as much time as you can to her, but that you have other obligations. You do not have to be specific. Hope this helps.
2006-12-20 08:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by jgbarber65 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how annoying she is. Give it to her straight.
"Look, you are my friend so I have to tell you that I just can't sit here all day long and hear you sob about your life woes. I need to hear some positive things once in a while. Your parents got a divorce, so what a lot of parents get divorced, be happy "two christmases". I don't want to but I will stop hanging out with you all together if you don't pull yourself out of this sadness slump. Stop Pondering on things you cant change!!!"
She'll make excuses from there, get her doing something, get her out of the house, take her to a mall. Show her that she has to occupy her time doing fun things. She just wants attention and whining is her way for now.
Hopefully if you shed some light on it she'll stop whining.
2006-12-20 16:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to explain to your friend that you really feel for her, but you are not equipped to deal with these sort of problems and tell her to ask her mother or father to seek some counseling for her. Try to explain to her divorce isn't the end of the world, although very sad. life goes on and to be happy at least her parents are still alive. Also as a friend keep in mind it is the holidays and depression levels kick into high gear around this time. Good luck to you and your friend..
2006-12-20 16:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well her parenst are divorced and maybe she dosent want to talk about it becuase maybe things got worse for her and her parents. Well if your the only girl who she crys on your shoulder you should make her happy becuase maybe there no one else who could do that but you. If theres someone else shes crying on you should tell her that your too busy and you'll be fine. Shes old enough to handle this on her own. Do what you think to get her away from you like take a vacation or visit someone.
In my opinion your a really good friend to give up something for her.
Take Care
2006-12-20 16:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Thrills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a freakin' b*tch. What kind of friend are you for wanting to dump your friend in her time of need.
Instead of just listening and and whining about being there for her, help her to see the positive side of the divorce and help her with ways to get past the pain.
Boo-hoo you missed a concert and going down on your boyfriend. I just hope that you don't have anything bad happen to you and need someone that you trust to be there for you. But then again you can probably just complain about it to your johns.
2006-12-20 16:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jumper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how good of a friend she really is.
If she's your best friend, then you need to make the time to be there for her, as she would for you if your world was falling apart, as hers is, in her eyes.
If shes not that good of a friend and you won't miss her friendship when she finally starts to move on, then kick her to the curb.
These are the times that make or break true friendships. Your actions will determine how this friendship ends up, or just ends.
Having friends sucks sometimes and it takes work sometimes. Is she worth the work and effort she is not demanding from you?
2006-12-20 16:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by gzam415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's your friend, you shouldn't need to get her off your back. Tell her that you know that her parents got divorced and that you're very sorry for her, but suggest talking about something else for a change. Don't ditch her because she won't stop. Sometimes being a good friend means sacrifices.
2006-12-20 16:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her parents' divorce is a tragedy for her. She needs to cry.
This does not mean you have to miss concerts for her on a routine basis. Spend time with her when you can. Listen to her. Don't put her down. Invite her to do something fun with you. If she doesn't feel up to it, that's okay, try again some other time.
But don't forget to go on with your own life too.
2006-12-20 16:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs someone to trust right now and your her friend so do this very delicately. Just tell her you have done all you can to help her thru but you now think she needs professional help. If she gives you a hard time about that then just tell her you think she may want more attention than you have to give. Tell her to go to her parents. Nicely tho, you might need her and she will be there for you.
2006-12-20 16:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're not the friend that she thinks you are. She'll need to know that now and again down the road I presume. Real friends listen and are there for us to "cry" on when we need it. A divorce is a tramatic thing to go through. Maybe you should try to be more understanding of what she's going thru and realize now more than ever she needs her "friends". But she also needs to know who is and who isn't.
2006-12-20 16:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋