My best friend, Jordan, was just dumped by his girlfriend, Meredith(my friend). They've been together for 9 months until today. I don't know how I can cheer him up, or help him out. I was dumped a couple weeks ago too, and I felt terrible, until I accepted that he won't come back, but Jordan won't listen. Please give me some advice??
2006-12-20 08:14:47 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Since you have had the same experience than you know that it takes time to heal from such a blow like that , give your friend space and time to work this through, sometimes its not the words that are spoken its just being there, helping them to work it out, listening to him vent .Over time he will heal and he will remember that you were there for him.
2006-12-20 08:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Priscilla B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the best thing for Jordan right now, in my opinion, is time alone to sort things out. Break-ups are always tough, especially when the relationship was longer than just a couple of months. He may not see your point now, but he will. Just let him know that you're there for him, but when it comes down to it, he needs to figure out everything on his own.
This reminds me of a Sex and the City episode where one of the girls says that it takes half the timespan of a relationship to get over the person. So, if they were together nine months, he's going to need a little over four to see things clearly.
I've been there before as well, and I know it's tough. Hang in there!
2006-12-20 08:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by SChi25 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old you are. It sounds like a high school relationship. Tell J that those don't last anyway, and there are plenty of fish in the sea. In the meantime, since you are caught between two friends, don't take sides. I would recommend that you don't talk to Jordan about Meredith personally. You can talk to him about how he feels, but let him know you don't want to hear her name, and tell her the same thing about him. Whatever you do, don't get in the middle of this. You'll thank me later.
2006-12-20 08:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by lapoetsmoderator 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My best friend and I got dumped around the same time and we just hung out all the time together. We would go out and drink with other friends and just move on with each other. This made us so much close. We helped each other! It is a great friendship booster! Hope this helps!
2006-12-20 08:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when Jake dumped me this summer, i felt like nothing would help me feel better, and i thought he would come back for me. guys were trying to get with me but i said i wasn't over Jake yet. so THEN i let myself feel sorry for myself...after about a month i realized i was missing out on all the fun things i could have done, like laugh and be happy. maybe you could tell him that life is kinda rolling under him and he'll be ok, and you want to laugh with him again? he needs comfort food...or maybe a hug.
2006-12-20 08:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him time and be his friend. If the dumping just happened he's not yet ready to hear that she isn't coming back. Eventually, you're his friend, you'll know when, you can bring up those kind of things if he really needs to hear them. But for now, just be his friend and be there for him.
2006-12-20 08:21:34 · answer #6 · answered by gzam415 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time and fun
Give him those two things.
It will take time to mend a heart - however to keep his mind off of the matter, take him to a movie, go sledding (where prohibitted due to lack of snow), go for a bike ride, anything that he enjoys. This will help ease some issues.
If you two are of age, boozing helps as well.
2006-12-20 08:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by offspringkin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you didn't feel better until you accepted your boy friend wasn't coming back. Then you understand that acceptance is something that comes within yourself. You can't force someone to accept something. You friend needs time. All you can do is offer him support so that when he does accept it, he won't hurt too badly.
2006-12-20 08:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by gabbi512 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him the usual stuff like, there are other fish in the sea and he'll find someone better. obviously this meant alot to him, so if he doesnt want to hear that there are ohter girls out there, let him vent and keep your shoulder open for him to cry on. tell him it wasnt his fault and things are better this way. everything happens for a reason, maybe it was for the best
2006-12-20 08:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did she dump him? Talk to her and ask her what he did to make her not want him anymore. I wouldn't date him if I were you. Just stay best friends and be there for each other.
2006-12-21 01:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by moobiemuffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋