Sex after natural birth?

Question

Does it hurt? Will it be lose? Will it ever go 'tight' again? Does it make any differance if epidural has been used?

To the men-does it feel much different? and ever as good again?

Thanks xxx

Answer 1

I am not saying this to be contrary, but it does obviously get looser after natural child birth. Do not expect to have the same youthful sexual equipment you once had, but that doesn’t mean it is bad. A man with any tact at all would no sooner complain about the firmness of his wife’s vagina than a women would complain to a man about his penis size. You can still have a great time, it will just be a little different. It’s all good!

Answer 2

It varies very much from woman to woman. I have known women who are happily back at it within days of giving birth (and some who are pregnant again with weeks - be warned you may be quite fertile after giving birth if you are not fully breastfeeding). Equally I have known women who cannot bear the idea of sex for months.

Whether or not you have stitches or an episiotomy obviously will make a lot of difference to when you want to do it and how it feels. So may how much sleep you're getting, how relaxed you are, whether you're breastfeeding. An epidural doesn't really much much difference - either way at the moment of crowing (when the baby's head is stretching the vaginal opening t its maximum) LISTEN TO YOUR MIDWIFE. Be guided by her and try to only push and to pant or blow if she asks you to, this hopefully will reduce the risk of a tear and stitches.

The vagina is a highly elastic tube. Even after giving birth multiple times it returns to a small enough state to hold in tampons, remember! If you're concerned about muscle tone down there, start doing pelvic floor exercises NOW and keep doing them.

Answer 3

Epidural will make no differance. You wont be loose, it will shrink back, you'll be suprised. As for hurting, I found I was scared to have sex after the birth incase it hurt because I had 5 stitches with my first, but when I eventually took the bull by the horns - or the bull by the horn ha ha, I found I was worrying for nothing. I had 3 children in 2 and half years so, it couldnt of been that bad. The biggest weighing in at 9lb 3oz.
My husband found no differnance, I was worried about that too, the stretching, but it definatley back.

Answer 4

For the first 6 months I was tighter than before I had the baby. Even hubby noticed. Now either we have gotten used to it or things are more normal.

Epidurals increase the risks of tearing, tearing leads to scarring. Scar tissue is never the same, assuming you are sewn up properly which probably you won't be. I made the doc promise she knew what she was doing (because she didn't want to wait any longer to see if the bleeding would stop) and she didn't so I had to remove the stitch 12 hours later.

Answer 5

If it's too soon, it will hurt. If you're breastfeeding, it will hurt. Epidural does not make any difference. It will go tight again, but not as tight as it used to be. Men will be fine!

Hope that answers all questions! :) Good luck!

Answer 6

Believe it or not, it will not be lose, in fact the opposite. I had stitches so I was very tight. If it hurts stop, don't push it. Make sure you are relaxed to, the more you tense, the more it will hurt. It does get better after time. I am back to normal now and my son is nine months old.
Get some KY Jelly just in case.

Answer 7

I had my first child 3 months ago. I had an epidural and an episiotomy. I was scared to have sex again. But now I don't know what I was so scared for. Just take it slow and you'll be fine. Remember to relax. I asked my husband if it felt different and he said no. I personally am finding it pleasurable.

Answer 8

You're a bit loser right after (you can usually start having sex again 6 weeks after), but it goes back to normal again, especially if you go kegel exercises (I double-checked this with my husband and he agrees). Having an epidural doesn't make a difference - but having an episiotomy does. If you have an episiotomy, you may be loser or tighter than someone who hasn't had one, depending upon the stitching.

Answer 9

Yes it does hurt quite a bit, with me it was quite tight but i think thats becuase they had to cut me so when the OBGYN stitched me up he made it tight or something lol. I dont think it makes a difference if you had an epi or not and yes it does feel as good if not better again.

Answer 10

My spouse had 2 organic childbirths and replaced into basically as tight afterwords. No distinction in any respect in tightness. i think of she did do workouts, because of the fact she loves intercourse as much as I do. The adjustments have been that on an analogous time as having intercourse, we had one ear open for toddler crying. 2AM feedings left us drained. As young ones get older, they'll interrupt you at severe moments. All that is going away after the little ones pass out. then you definately could have uninhibited exciting back. reliable success. BTW, we are in mid 60s now. muscle mass soreness, joints harm and crack. intercourse isn't as often as whilst youthful, yet whilst we do, she remains as tight as before births. My spouse replaced into an OB nurse for 40 yrs and could inform you to certainly no longer have a C section if no longer medically needed.