My next door nieghboor has been my friends for as long as i can remember, but lately she has been turning 'bad.' Now she lies all the time and she is a idiot. My parents are afraid i might start acting bad like her if i hang out with her. But still, our friendship has been going on for as long as i can remember. Should I keep our freindship?
2006-12-20 08:08:38 · 15 answers · asked by tz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its usually not good to keep a friend like that. Once they start acting "bad", then it would influence you. I personally would stay away from that from that friend and go find a new one.
2006-12-20 08:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by torag5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have been friends for a long time. i think it would be worth the effort to talk to her. A lot of the time when people act out in a negative way, its usually because they have a personal issue going on. Mabey your friend does not have anyone she can really talk too. Try and find out why she is "turning bad". It could be sooooo many things and mabey she has no one she can trust to talk to. Let her know that you care about her and are concered about how she has been lately and ask if there is something she would like to talk about or mabey you can help with. If she is that important to you, then spend the effort and really be her friend and try to find out whats going on. Sometimes just saying "i don't know what going on with you in your life, but i wanted to let you know that I am your friend and am here for you, so if you ever need someone to talk to, i'm here" and give her a big HUG (if it's appropiate) make it simple and quick and trust me, when she if down and out, you will come to her mind. Rather she calls/or see you or not, she will aslways remember what you said and someday she may take you up on the offer of talking. Good luck!
2006-12-20 16:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Flaca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DEFINETLY would keep the friendship!!
Let me tell ya sumthing, I myself have hanged out with many friends who my parents, by far belive are a bad influence on me. But I didnt give up.. nor did i tell my parents im not gonna stop hanging out with my friends.. I just took things "slowly" you know, spend time with your neighbour.. one day they might move or you might move.. hopefully it doesnt happen, but if it does, you cant talk to them no more..and you'll realize how you could have done something to make them stay.. or even your friend.
Why don't you have fun time.. go out movies, or shopping, you know what you call that "girls night out" heh, sorry i dont know much on that, I jus hear that from my gf. But yea.. dont give up hope, there must be a reason shes acting up..talk to her, life aint over just yet... many more are out there, but try to keep this one as a best reminder of your friendship.
Wish you the best.
Shawn
2006-12-20 16:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by Shawn Miller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe before u stop being friends u should talk to her and see if shes depressed and doing those things because they r making her feel better u no that can start at like little things like lying but that can turn into drugs i reall y think u should right her and say that u care for and u want to keep the friend ship so write her i think u can make her better and she doesnt change u no better not to act like her
good luck
flip4life@bellsouth.net
2006-12-20 16:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change as they grow up, and often find they have different likes/dislikes and priorities in life than what they had before. It's not unusual for friends to grow apart. I wouldn't 'drop' her, but perhaps find out why she's 'changed' - has something happened at home/school? Has she started hanging out with other people that may have influenced this behaviour?
Good luck.
2006-12-20 16:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Aphrael_Danae 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to let go of a long term friendship but if it's damaging to your peace of mind and happiness sometimes you just have to let it fizzle out. As long as you are aware that she is "going bad" perhaps you could still see her- with caution- and try to figure out what's up and try to help her. If that fails, perhaps it is time to call your friendship quits.
2006-12-20 16:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try and talk to her and she what her problem is, and if you decide that she just to much drama to deal with, then distance yourself from her. Some Friendships don't last for ever.
Good luck
2006-12-20 16:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by Haruhi_Host_16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yess...keep it..a friendship is worth more then u kno..just talk to her..i have a friend thats the same...but i talk to her..and i teach her lessons like getting her caught..like i get some of my other friends and me to go to her house and she wouldnt kno they are there until she lies and they catch her...then yea, and i have another friend..everything she does is wrong...but if u try to talk to her aobout it..its sure to work =]
2006-12-20 16:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by krissy0410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her about it, and if she doesn't want to listen I would back off from her for a while. Maybe with time she will realize her loss.
Good Luck
2006-12-20 16:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by hb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her and ask her why she is being like this
and try to get her to be like her oldself.
this happened to one of my best friends and i talked to her and we did get in a fight over it but we ended up becoming best friends again.
so i think it's a good idea to talk to her, as long as you want to still be her friend
o x
s o p h i e
2006-12-20 16:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by let's.get.together 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋