2006-12-20 08:07:08 · 14 answers · asked by simplyJESSE 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
When he/she is convicted.
Okay, THAT wasn't thought out very well. Let me try again:
When the relationship becomes violent.
When one party (or both) become self-destructive.
When compromise and/or tolerance cannot be achieved.
When trust is no longer possible.
2006-12-20 08:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really all depends why you are saying good-bye. I recently had this happen to me but he said good-bye because he was moving out of state (a long distance relationship was out of the question for several reasons). About two weeks before he had to go he told about the move and his feelings in the same breath. It was great timing because it gave us just the right amount of time to reminisce about our time together, admit the feelings we had, talk about why it wouldn't work out as an LDR and then say good-bye. We've talked a few times since and it has been great to end a romantic relationship without any hostility. Because of the way it ended I will always be able to say the time I had with him was very well spent and I smile every time I think about it.
If, however, you are saying good-bye because you just don't see a future for you two then do it ASAP - the sooner the better. By not wasting either of your time and/or getting more deeply involved, you'll both be grateful eventually. If you are truly honest and very open about why you've got to call it quits you can leave knowing you've taken the high road and you'll have your future ex's respect. Personally, I'd do it in time to take the gift back and change New Year's Eve plans. It may sound harsh but both of you will be grateful that you're not paying off that gift over the next six months and/or spending NYE with someone that you didn't want to or later knowing that someone was with you that wished they weren't. Besides, you both could tie one on and blame it on the holiday!
2006-12-20 17:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an entirely subjective question that does not fit within the realm of philosophy. However, on a personal note- you probably know when the right time is for you. Pay attention to your intuition and when you sense a que than that's when it's a good time.
2006-12-20 17:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good byes are always painful but if you say i love you before you say good bye then that can sometimes ease the pain, at least a little bit. But none the less Goodbyes are ALWAYS going to be hard especially if it's someone you love.good luck.
2006-12-20 16:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by 1.2..3...Boo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you can wait till mid-january, that would be best so it's not right after, and certainly not before christmas. don't tell her that it's been on your mind and bring up certain things of the past because that will make her feel badly she didn't recognise your thoughts before and will make her angry that she continued to give you her feelings while being duped into thinking that yours were still there. have a reason for the break, but be careful what you say. if you do love her and you see a possible future, make sure she knows that you see that future.
2006-12-20 16:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Justin H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Actually think the best time Would Be On Vallentines Day, Her Birthday or Your Anniversary. That way It will always be a most Memorable Moment In Both Your lives...
2006-12-20 16:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by Scott 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just say I LOVE YOU but goodbyes are for hurting people so save it.
2006-12-20 16:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by AYU 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you don't want to see the person again or know that doing so is harming one or both of you.
2006-12-20 16:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When everything is so perfect that keeping it going one more second would ruin it forever.
2006-12-20 16:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably right now if your thinking about it
2006-12-20 16:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Beck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋