I am a guy & recently broke off with my bf about a month ago quite bitter about a lot of things, including him waiting for a girl to come around while he played with my feelings saying he loved me all the time, which he did for three long years until this girl came into his life and he had to leave me for the sake of society and his future with a woman than with me. I have forgiven him 4 what he did and we met recently, where we had a closure of sorts...with promise to be in touch. He left town last weekend. I decided that I will not be the person initiating contact from my end. Last three days, he has called me everyday just to check on how I was doing and generally chat about daily stuff, something that we used to do while in a relationship, except words of endearment that I still miss a lot. I dont think I am completely over him, but am trying to move on. But each time he calls, he leaves me thinking why did he call? Should I encourage it or not take his calls or pretend being busy?
2006-12-20 08:04:45 · 6 answers · asked by Fast C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, the honest truth also is that I liked him as a friend, its just that the relationship between us is over (which was never known to anyone outside, except us). So I dont have a problem being his friend, but i need to first get over my emotions for him and still have him as someone I know - but not immediately. Cutting him off wiill only create more distance while he is making an effort to be friendly. However, I dont know how to get over him while he still calls to check on me...just like some of my other friends do....difference is i feel strongly about him and he knows it too....
2006-12-20 08:18:08 · update #1
if he's still with his girlfriend and you want to move on...theres no point of encouraging it. if you take his calls just try to talk less bit by bit, say you've got things to do...no actually, you got to make up your mind first. if you still want him or not? what about him and his girlfriend? would you still want to be with him if he ever comes back or do you want to move on?which is your heart's desire? when you know your answers then make the choice and its all up to you. we dont know this relationship as much as you do and its only you who knows whats best.
2006-12-20 08:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.
2014-10-24 10:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time he calls tell him you will call him back. Then give your self a little time to feel stronger. When you feel you are a little more over him and want a conversation without the terms of endearment, give him a call.
2006-12-23 02:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by VATreasures 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know when he rings next time that you would like to hear from him and say "next week", thanks for calling bye.
See what sought of response you get but stick to your guns about it. You will be choosing how often he calls and maybe he will get the hint that you don't need him checking up on you.
2006-12-20 08:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by shepherdivynzac 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that ur busy and u will call him back ...leave him hangin and if he rly likes u then he will make the move. just keep going on as usual with ya life and act like nothing bothers u. then eventually he will come to u and be like HELLO have u been reading the signs..lol...but if not just remain friends if thats what u want.
2006-12-20 08:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by khester05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dt answer his calls..talking to each other everyday would only make you feel strongly for him even more...try to be distant for awhile and meet new people, so u can move on and get over him!
2006-12-20 09:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cuz you promise to keep in touch.
dont take his calls; he'll get the message.
2006-12-20 08:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋