I recently got seperated and I need to reconnect with this person in order to tell him how I have felt all theses years. How? What shall I say?
2006-12-20 08:02:05 · 16 answers · asked by passion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
find where they are and just do it.
call and invite him/her out for brunch, lunch, dinner.
call and ask if you may stop over to 'catch up'
send flowers w/note
send a special gift via UPS
send a card with a heartfelt note inside
the manner is not as important as you doing the act itself. just take a deep breath, and do it. nothing sux more then regret.
2006-12-20 08:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you want to reconnect because you're lonely? Or is it really because you've harbored feelings for him all this time? I recently went through a very similar experience. I called him and said "Hi! Guess who?". We ended up meeting to talk and are in contact almost every day. If you truly think you have what it takes to get back with him, or even just be friends, then go ahead! It can't hurt to try, now can it? Good luck!
2006-12-20 16:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by sassy1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out if he is married first...leave him alone if he is. Take it from me, been there...I had an old lover contact me after 17 years. He made it out to be a friendly thing and I fell for it. We exchanged emails for about 2 months. We talked about the old days, our spouses, kids, work...The day we finally had lunch, I looked into his eyes and I knew...the next day, he invited me out to breakfast. When I got home, he e-mailed me and asked me if i felt like "being bad". That was almost a year ago and It's been down hill ever since. Once you start, it's very hard to stop. Damn near impossible. we both are addicted. It's a path that leads to nowhere unless he is willing to leave everything behind to be with you. Most men won't. Find out first to get it out of your system. Be very careful and good luck!
2006-12-20 16:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
choose. either be married or be divorced and trying to reconnect. After you've chosen, and if you decide to be divorced, after the divorce is final, then go with the flow in connecting with your former lover. How, depends on your individual history and what would be acceptable. If it's love, it will be there.
2006-12-20 16:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well go ahead and do it. You have nothing to loose, try and be relaxed about it and you don't have to spill your guts out right away. see if he will meet you casually for coffee or a drink somewhere and take it from there. For all you know he is married with kids, so all that may come out of it is a renewed friendship and there is nothing wrong with that,
Good Luck
2006-12-20 16:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure that he isn´t involved with someone. If he is,
forget it! Start slowly and don´t tell him how you have felt all
these years. He might be shocked.
I´ve been in the same situation and his answer was: You are
harassing me!
Good luck!
2006-12-20 16:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by summerbreeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're bored and feel abandoned. Don't bother, find a great guy on Yahoo Personals.... I did... write if you want to know more,, a good friend of mine once told me "the only thing good reheated is stuffed cabbage...."
2006-12-20 16:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do that, you don't know how that person is doing. You could ruin a lot of things for your former lover. Just deal with your emotions.
2006-12-20 16:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to reconnect with yourself. Stop being addicted to those in love feelings.
2006-12-20 16:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hire a PI or an insurance agent, it could turn up like "something about mary"....lol
2006-12-20 16:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋