We never asked them to send any gifts at all. We have already celebrated Christmas and have prepared the kids that Santa came early this year. My parents are having trouble with the fact that my kids wont' be opening anything Christmas day. So they decided to send a box of toys, and they are now telling me how much they spent on the postage. We are struggling financially right now, so One Christmas is all we are getting this year. WE chose to have our Christmas at my husbands family Christmas party. We are comfortable with the fact that "Santa" has come already. Why are my materialistic parents having such are hard time with this? My kids are young and don't know the difference. Any advice, or support would be appriciated. Everytime my parents try to help us, they rub it in our face that we need their help and how much it is costing them. What is the point of having a family support system when the support system is constantly breaking you down.....?
2006-12-20 08:01:14 · 7 answers · asked by Jenni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your parents mean well and love and miss your kids even now that its christmas but to keep rubing the amount they spent on them is just wrong and hurtful to you and your husband if they continue doing this tell them to send no more toys or anything else you guys are trying and they need to be more support to your family
2006-12-20 08:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by hallowsevenight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your parents are only trying to make your Christmas bright. If you feel that they are rubbing your financial issues in your face then next time don't tell no one about it. Leave it between you and your husband. Lots of family members tend to give money and then rub it in your face later. Whenever they ask so how things going just say good everything is good.
Take the box of toys and give it to the kids on Christmas day. I think some of your in laws will also have presents for your kids and if they offer take it but if its money in a card don't take it.
2006-12-20 08:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could be rude and not accept the package when it arrives, but I think this would cause some anamosity in the family! Simply explain to your parents that Christmas has already come and since they haven't sent gifts in the past there is no reason they should be sending them now...when you have never asked for them in the first place. Seems to me like your parents are trying to make up for something they didn't do as parents of young children! Save the gifts for another occasion or regift them as birthday's come up all year long!
2006-12-20 08:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you just let your parents give your kids presents when they want to? They are grandparents! Sending Christmas presents to the kids is not "helping" you. It is normal grandparent behavior.
Of course, it is rude to tell the recipient of a gift how much it cost.
Helping you is a different issue. If you ask for help, I guess they can complain. But if you don't ask, but they send you a gift, just thank them graciously. If they complain, tell them you really don't want to cause them any trouble, and they don't have to give you anything.
And, considering the tension it causes, NEVER complain to them about your financial struggles. Don't even mention it. Hearing about your problems makes them feel bad, they feel obligated to do something for you, and they resent it. That's how they react, so just don't bring it up to them. Keep it between you and your husband, where it belongs.
2006-12-20 08:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds familiar, maybe my parents are yours. Haha. Just kidding, although it does sound a lot like something my mom would do.
Not really sure on this, if it was my mom, and I had already asked her not to send anything, I think I'd take it, and have a talk to her about it that it hurt she went against mine and my husband's wishes.
But I think it is a bit cold of her to complain about how much the postage cost to send it. To me, that sounds like emotional blackmail, and I apologise if that sounded a bit harsh, but It's also extremely rude too.
I suggest maybe you might talk to your husband about it, maybe have a calm talk with your parents to find out what's going on and why they're acting like this.
But in the meantime, it could cause problems in the family if you refuse to except the gifts. Take it in strides I say, Take the package, talk to your mom, tell her you're grateful but she really didn't need to go to all that trouble, grandparents or not. But be careful about how you word it, if they're anything like my parents, they'll be sensitive and get offended easily.
Sorry, I couldn't be more of much help. :(
2006-12-20 08:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would only send a handwritten thank you if, like the 1st poster said, the gift was received via snail mail. Anything in person is a hug and a thank you. No, I wouldn't do anything like that via facebook or any other social site. I find that tacky so to say, not personal at all.
2016-05-23 01:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me get it....your parents sent the gifts right? are they supposed to be from your parents or from santa? just give the gifts to your children by explaining them that they are from their grand parents...it doesn have to be santa again!! i understand that you propably dont want any favours from them, but since they have already sent the gifts...what could you do? throw them away? just keep them, tell them once again ''thank you but just for you to know, kids will know that gifts are from you not santa''...sry if i am not helping...add some details to explain better and maybe i will have another answer!
2006-12-20 08:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by ursula!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋