When I finally click with someone and actually care about whether we remain friends or not I always end up doing something so they leave..at tiems I think maybe they are just being nice because they feel sorry for me-- for I am always alone..and not by choice. I try to make friends..not just aquantices I guess maybe I am meant to be alone..My hubby uses this aloneness to manipulate me..control me..for everyone needs someone and he's not there either but has used that I am generallly grateful just for the smallest things for they do not exist in my life.. once again I am alone..I thought I finally made afriend on line..I clicked with them and tried to explain how fearful I was about getting close to anyone and having them leave without explaination..maybe people are playing to many games ...but for them I think they are just a nice person and meant well than poof they were gone... my hubby uses the fact I can't even keep a fiend agianst me..cuts me off of communication when I make mis
2006-12-20 07:58:07 · 6 answers · asked by LostInTheCrowd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
mistakes... when I don't hear from who is supposidly a friend I care about or let get close to me..I react and I try to explain that to them hoping they will understand or care...I can't keep living like this..I am dying inside.. its funny though for its how my hubby has kept me this long with him...and lets me knwo how who else would want me...and I am honestly believing he;'s right....
2006-12-20 08:00:46 · update #1
I know people mean well but i don't need anyones pity..I just need their friendship...maybe I ask too much when I care to let me know if they are not going to be around..or if they don;t want to be my friend tell me why..don't just cut me off..for I really do care... and I do nto form bonds very often so I don't want to lose it..but I always do..I have been alone in VA for 2 years now..LOL Lord know I have tried...
2006-12-20 08:03:31 · update #2
any ideas..so in another few years..yes years... and if I click with someone else as a friend I won't make the same mistake..thats if I even take the chance anymore.. Please don't feel sorry for me..I am sure its something I am doing myself..and just haven't figured out what..until I heal..if I survive that long.. so I amy go numb...I can't chance getting close to anyone right now...
2006-12-20 08:06:45 · update #3
I am over 40 years old...so umm when ...its funny most people would lable someone like me a loser..in fact my hubby does...
2006-12-20 08:08:02 · update #4
PLEASE....tell me what I can do so this does nto happen again...I can barley type I am crying so hard...
2006-12-20 08:09:56 · update #5
As for the person I believed was my friend...they were so nice and caring..said things I never expected...they said things I had waited all my life to hear and did things.. I guess I shouldn't have been so niave.. at first they were always there...I was amazed...I didn't expect it...I told them I appreciated it..than poof they were gone..I guess they got ill..but since they didn't live were I do I was worried...that something happened to them..and all down him from there... I kept trying to get a response anythign to know..if they were of or if I got kicked to the curb...I was scared..I cared abotu them adn did nto want to screw up the friendship I felt I was building..it was too precious to me.. Iknwo because I am grateful that makes me a target..but why lie to people about how you feel..
2006-12-20 08:15:40 · update #6
As for the person I believed was my friend...they were so nice and caring..said things I never expected...they said things I had waited all my life to hear and did things.. I guess I shouldn't have been so niave.. at first they were always there...I was amazed...I didn't expect it...I told them I appreciated it..than poof they were gone..I guess they got ill..but since they didn't live were I do I was worried...that something happened to them..and all down him from there... I kept trying to get a response anythign to know..if they were of or if I got kicked to the curb...I was scared..I cared abotu them adn did nto want to screw up the friendship I felt I was building..it was too precious to me.. Iknwo because I am grateful that makes me a target..but why lie to people about how you feel..
2006-12-20 08:15:41 · update #7
Maybe people get freaked out by your avatar's blue hair. Honestly, online friends can be strange. I'll meet someone, and get along grandly for a week, then hear nothing from her ever again. I think it's probably just the nature of the online medium. I think most people aren't looking for a full-time pal, they're just knocking around. They'll meet someone and talk back and forth for some amount of time, then quit when the novelty wears off and go find someone new. Drop me a line sometime if you want. I generally don't completely disappear.
2006-12-20 08:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by czimme3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you could be doing wrong (or what you think is wrong) but I know how you feel. I don't understand how opening up to someone and letting them know your feelings could scare them away, but it often does. Maybe the only thing you're doing wrong is choosing the wrong friends. I guess it's best to be friendly to as many people as we can; there have to be people who are also friendly. The problem is, it's rare that we find someone we really click with. We might think someone is nice but we don't have anything in common. You might just need to seek out people with your interests and background. I am not sure I have advice for you though. Only the other person knows what you did "wrong" (in their opinion). Besides talking to them, there is not much you can do. If they aren't responsive, let them be. You honestly deserve better (and I know I do too). Be greatful for who you do have in your life and for what you have (even though you're still lonely...and I understand! )
2006-12-20 09:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well nobody deserves to be alone..... you are not alone you have your husband! If you need to feel loved get a puppy and talk to it. You shouldnt change yourself, find someone who likes you for you! Give it time the right friend will come along! Never let anyone use you! Nobody deserves that! I'll be your friend if you want!
2006-12-20 08:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by LC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buddy no one is meant to be alone- and don't be so affraid of someone leaving. your hubby isn't helping at all , if he's useing your saddness against you he's no hubby he's a jerk. i think he takes your self confedence from u and uses it in the wrong way. take time off from him and try just doing things you love. i can guarntee their are other woman out there who feel the same way and you know wat they do-they do wat they want. go party- you might even meet a woman with the same probelm and she might help. just trust your self and don't let harsh words bring you to a stop. besides if you get answers from other people that shows that you are not alone-it shows you're loved and cared for by others you don't know
2006-12-20 08:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by Word up. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont know, but you have to remember that we live in the Matirx, and our president is a liar and leeds people to kill and that 911 was an inside job.
so if you are a good person maybe those you meet are mental and have problems, just like those that follow this government.
good luck.
2006-12-20 17:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. That sucks. I'd like to be your friend! Contact me..maybe we'll "click".
Keep your head up sunshine.
2006-12-20 08:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by James Dean 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋