Since we've turned 18 and gone to Uni, all my frinds care about is going out to clubs everynight, drinking and sometimes even smoking and I am not the sort of person who enjoys that and my parents dont like me doing things like that either, my friends invite me and when I say no, they say im moody and unsociable what do i. I just feel like an outsider from them now and if we get together all they talk about are the nights out and I feel that me hanging with them is pointless. What should i do.
2006-12-20 07:50:51 · 17 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
stay friends with them but at the same time look for people who you have more in common with. you don't have to be the kind of person who goes out partying all the time. don't feel pressured to.
why don't you try going out with them once in a while?
Look for clubs at your uni that you have some interest in, you might be able to meet people who have similar intersts.
2006-12-20 07:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by zanoshi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You and your friends have grown apart it seems, but before i carry on sit down and think.
Are you really not enjoying yourself when you go out with them OR are you to nervous and shy but would like to enjoy being with them clubbing.
If you dont like going clubbing at all, then you have to make new friends.
This doesn't mean lose these friends, it means look for some different friends that enjoy doing things that you do!
You can amass as many freinds as you want. There are'nt any limits y'no!
So, get out there in that big wide world and find some like-minded people.
You never know, if you find other places to go to- then some of your friends may get curious and come along and join you.
So then you'll have the best of both worlds!
Life is short so, do what you want, what makes you happy!
2006-12-27 19:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by kiku 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're probably just growing out of your current friends. It's ok, it happens. I think that since you're at uni, you should try and make new friends, (easier said than done, I know) whom have more in common with you than your old friends do. You can try and go out with your mates on nights out, but if you really don't enjoy it, then there probably isn't much point. Or try and explain to your friends that you don't really enjoy nights out clubbing and getting drunk, and ask them if you guys can maybe hang out one or two nights a week, and just watch a movie together or something. You'll probably find that as its the first year of Uni, they are just letting thier hair down. They'll chill out after they've been there a while, and they won't be going out as much, and you will find you get your friends back! And if it doesn't happen, and they don't chill out, like I said, it probably just means that you've outgrown them, and you will make new friends that are a bit more on your wavelength.
2006-12-20 18:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by iwatchedthestarsfallsilently 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel a similar thing happened to me. In the end what I had to do was make new friends but I made sure that I still remained in contact with the old ones. So I split my time between the two groups.
Once I started doing this, it was a bit of an eye opener for my older friends because they thought that because I wasn't hanging out with them I had to be staying in and being boring, and it wasn't until they saw me with my other group of friends that they realised that I wasn't being unsociable and moody.
You never know a similar thing could happen to you and that will bring them around
2006-12-20 16:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't keep in touch in with my friends once I've moved on. Throughout school, college and uni, i have had different friends and i have finally found a person who i can truly call my best friend. Uni is a time to be meeting new people, as in my first year i hung out with some girls that i stopped talking to come my second year and i got new friends. You'll always have friends, just use your instincts to know a good one from a bad one!
2006-12-20 20:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find some different friends who don't pressure you to do the things that are harmful to you. Join some academic clubs at the Uni and meet people who share your interests and are there for an education instead of nightly partying. It will be you who graduates and can get a good job while most of the party crowd will be failing classes and having to leave without a degree.
2006-12-20 15:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Country girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your a different person Neel, believe me... I mean like if your friends like to do things that you dont, then don't do it... trust your instincts dude. Like I will say that I would like to go clubbin and all that stuff, but everything is to a limit you know.. there is the pros and cons of having fun itself!!!.. Maybe try to find some new friends...however don't let go of your friends now... try to be cool with it now, until you find your new friends.
Lifes Changing man, for all people going through UNI/COLLEGE!! Your at the most important time of your life now.. knowing what you want.
Wish you the best
Sincers;
Shawn Miller
2006-12-20 16:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Shawn Miller 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are growing up, you are maturing quicker than them also you want to make something of your life thats why you are in uni. Do not let them drag you down stick to what you are doing. You will find new friends in uni as these people will have more in common with you.
2006-12-21 17:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for people to change and get new friends in college. Stay on friendly terms with the old ones, but find new people to spend time with in the ways you want to.
2006-12-20 16:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no your not unsociable or moody....your sensible and wised up...take no notice to them...find some friends who are into the same things as you...yep it's a pointless task....don't hang with them any more...
2006-12-20 20:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋