My husband is 38 and I am 23 years old. I met him at work and had a huge crush on him.....I asked him out and we started dating and now are married. I noticed from the history on his computer that he looks at girls that are 18-21 years old on myspace. Does that mean he wishes I was younger?? I thought I was young enough to begin with!!
2006-12-20 07:46:01 · 34 answers · asked by Lana Marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
at 23 and in your prime why the hell are you with that old man anyways.
2006-12-20 07:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your husband being 38 years old, and you being 23 - if he is looking at 18-21 year olds, seems like he may have a problem. Those girls (also you ) are young enough to be his daughters. He should be happy he has you. He really has no reason to be on myspace, unless he has his own. You might want to observe him a little closely. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-20 07:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound really insecure... Grow up. There's not that much difference between 21 and 23 to someone who's 38... And you should have known he was into younger chicks when he married *you*, and not someone closer to his age. I would be alarmed if my husband was spending time looking at chicks on myspace, no matter what the age was. This is one of the most immature pastimes I can think of.
2006-12-20 07:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK here's the deal. Guys like cute young girls. They just do. When he is 60 he will still like looking at 20 year old girls.
It doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you. Just like if my wife thinks some dude is hotter than me that's OK - I'm not an idiot I know that I am not Shepard Smith and she is not Kiran Chetry.
Maybe it's because most of the people on myspace and very young? And anyone under 18 makes him feel like a pervert?
2006-12-20 07:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mid-life crisis. Remind him how lucky he is to have a 23 year old wife at age 38. Ask him how many of his friends have young wives. These middle-aged men have these silly fanatasies about these young, wild women like they dreamed of in high school. He's fearful fo growing old. Tell him to get over it, because you are young enough to actually find someone hotter.
Better yet - Put YOURSELF on myspace and see if he finds you. That will teach him! Maybe he will even like it and realize what he has. Hey, what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I know, this is mean, but men like that (my dad was like that) gross me out.
2006-12-20 07:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most guys will keep on looking on the computer at other girls in that age range because it's the closest they can get before it's illegal. Don't let it effect you and think he doesn't think you're beautiful anymore. You are only 23 years old. I'm sure he's happy with what he has. You need to communicate with him and ask him what's going on. Tell him how you feel.
2006-12-20 08:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is looking at it doesn't mean he wants it. Many people, both men and women, fantasize about other people. It is completely natural. The age of your husband and the age of the girls he looks at does worry me a bit, though. I believe if you are truly soul mates, age does not matter, but it seems that he is fixated on young women. I think you should talk to him about it and let him know you are concerned. If he truly loves and respects you, he will stop looking or at least invite you to look with him and share his thoughts about it with you.
I hope this helps. Before my husband and I were married I found some sites that he had been visiting and when I approached him about it, he said to him it was like looking at a magazine. He agreed to stop looking because it bothered me.
2006-12-20 08:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a cradle robber. He started with you and now your an old woman. Try on the Cheer Leader outfit and see if that works. Don't have children with him right away, wait and see if he can stand an older woman. By the way, your a child yourself to a man 38.
2006-12-20 07:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me see here, when he was 30 you were in 10th grade!
That is certainly young enough. Sorry to say but hubby has a problem.
Will he dump you in 7 years for another 20 year old?
2006-12-20 08:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to your husband and let him know how you feel and ask those questions. yes I think he is interested in younger woman. I mean if he met you when he was 38 and you 23 then that should tell you something right there that he is interested in younger woman, it sounds like it.. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel.
2006-12-20 07:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by supersteveee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever thought that he might look at a 15 yr old built like an 18 yr old? It doesn't sound too good hun, sorry!
2006-12-20 07:50:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋