but affraid of a full committment and if she becomes fed up and wants to break it off would you try to change? We don't live together but have an exclusive relationship with each other.
2006-12-20 07:29:38 · 14 answers · asked by Cowgirl Joe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you guys want two different things out of the relationship, then you either have to accept that he isn't into having a full commitment or move on.
2006-12-20 07:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on life experience. If he is under 25, then he's probably not ready. However if he's above 25, then he's just waiting for someone better. 7 years is a long time. You didn't state if you were together or not. Are you a couple, engaged, or just friends with benefits. If you're the latter, you can forget about a serious relationship after 7 years.
2006-12-20 15:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by tHEwISE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has some trust issues, or something. After seven years, and he doesn't know if he wants to commit to you and the relationship you have together, I'd say he doesn't really respect you and what you want.... not that he has to give in, I mean, respect is a two way street... But, there is a reason for it.. get to the bottom of it, and then decide what you want to do. Mostly, you will just have to talk to him and be open with him in a way that doesn't threaten him... Try not to issue mandates... he'll feel emasculated. Just be honest, tell him what you want, ask him what he wants, and make a decision.
2006-12-20 15:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by just nate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes to the first part of your question. Love doesn't come with an expiration date. But I will ask you this , why would you want to be with a man if you have to give him an ultimatum.
In the end he will resent you for forcing him to marry you.
You should move on and fine a guy that wants the same things that you do and not waste anymore time with this guy.
2006-12-20 15:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want to try and force a man to change in this way. He will just end up resenting you for it and you will have wasted even more time. After 7 honey, if it isn't natural to get married, forget it.
2006-12-20 15:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I am who I am. Most men are the same way.If they do change sometimes they can harbor anger inside because they are not able to be themselves. A lot of times relationships fail because the man or woman does something they did not want to do to begin with. If you have to get someone to do the things you desire by threatening or manipulating them then I feel it is not worth the effort.
2006-12-20 15:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once again this is a situation where the guy isn't into you that much. Leave him and if he chases you down with a ring then he realized you are the one. Don't count on it and go on with your life and find a man that worships you for who you are and someone that you aren't trying to change. Where do women get the idea that we change? We don't.
2006-12-20 15:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is unreasonable for you to expect him to change after 7 years of having the relationship the way it is. If he was going to change he would have done it by now.
2006-12-20 15:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still refuses to marry after 7 years he probably never will and it's best to end it.
Kudos on not living together. Don't do it. It won't help and will make your breakup more difficult.
2006-12-20 15:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not living each other, but with the exclusive relationship sort of makes it easier. but how do you really know that it is exclusive though? is this why you want him to change?
2006-12-20 15:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋