Hi. I'm currently back and forth in a long-term relationship with a man I really love. I have always gotten along better with men than women and have a male friend I met thru art circles (we're both artists) and we have a lot in common.
Well, the problem is he's hot and cold. When I contact him, he doesn't respond. But when I tell him I'm no longer with my man, he contacts me very fast and tells me I can do better and I'm pretty, smart, blah, blah.....Eventually things blow over with my man and we're fine. During that time, my friend avoids me and I get frustrated. I want them both in my life. What gives??
2006-12-20 07:28:08 · 10 answers · asked by javagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
java is a lot like lava so your hot i take it
2006-12-20 07:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on that I'd say you can't have both. Your male friend obviously wants to be more than just your friend. The fact that he disappears when things are good with you and your man just shows that he is being respectful of your relationship. I think if your not interested in a relationship with him then you should cut him loose. The longer it carries on the worse it will be when the subject comes up. It sounds like he's waiting for you to get rid of your man and get with him.
2006-12-20 07:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Java,
Maybe your boyfriend is jealous of the friendship you have with your friend. The fact that your friend calls and gives you affirmation and tells you yeah what he did was rotten, just makes the whole situation worse. I hate to say it but I cut off ties with alot of my guy friends when I dated my boyfriend. I felt like it wasn't good to have other guys calling and wanteing to go out with me when I was dating one person. If your boyfriend is special your focus should be on him. I have a few mail friends left. I hear from about once a month. We don't go out anymore we just talk occassionally. THe deciding factor for me was, How would I feel if I knew that he had a girl that he could fall back on
when he needed affirmation. I probably wouldn't
2006-12-20 07:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably likes you and doesn't want to get in the way of your relationship with your boyfriend. In this case, you cannot have both. Your friend has made that clear. Perhaps he wants to be your boyfriend. The one thing that is clear is that he does not approve of your relationship with your boyfriend. The fact that you keep breaking up with him makes it clear that this man is not good for you.
2006-12-20 07:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend obviously has feelings for you. if you know him well, he is either
a)an a$$hole
b)a prick that just wants you on his bed
or c) in love with you, but too shy and frustrated because he doesn't have a chance with you.
i think you'll probably know his personality more.
but overall
he is not being a good friend! feelings aside!
2006-12-20 07:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not have your cake and eat it too. You need to pick one or the other... you are stringing them both along. That is selfish.
2006-12-20 07:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 23:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants you, but he doesn't want your man as an obstacle.
2006-12-20 07:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by kitn_04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you.
2006-12-20 07:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to be with you.
2006-12-20 07:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by oxygenO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋