can i do it?

Question

i had a son when i was 16 it was the biggest mistake not wearing a condom. dont get me wrong i love my son and i ahve taken care of him but i wish i were older. but i am 18 and i want to go to college but i work i am on my own cause i was disowned and have no one to take care of him how do i leave my kid with a stranger. how do i work go to college and still see my baby. what do i do i want to give him a better life by going to college what do i do? can i do it?

Answer 1

most college campuses have a day care facility that is either free or low cost to registered full time students .. its something to look into.

Answer 2

Take online courses; home-schooling;

Some schools offer day-care assistance as well. But first off, you should probably determine what it is that you would like to do with your life... and in case you're not sure of that, let me help you.

Answer yourself this, and it will help guide what you should do with yourself:
If money did not exist, and you could do anything you wanted for the rest of your life as a hobby, or for pleasure, what would you do?

Find a way to achieve this hobby/pleasure and you will find a a suitable possible career or path to go down. Finding this path will lead you in the right direction for education.

Think about it. About the watching the kid thing, talk to school councillors and college councillors - anyone would be willing to help give you and your kid a good life.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Number one...it's very admirable that you've been a real man and accepted responsibility for your son! Is it possible to let his mother and or/her family watch him? If not I'm sure there are government grants to apply for that would help you in your situation, not to mention there are several on line college courses you may be able to take. Checkout University Of Phoenix online. More and more businesses are accepting online degrees, just be sure these schools are accedited. There's nothing wrong with being a working man either, look into plumbing, lineman or carpentry apprenticeships...they pay you to learn! The pay in any consruction based field (as long as it's union) are usually very good. I hope this helps, just do some research on any of the above topics..I'm sure you'll find something. Good luck, my prayers are with you! Ignore lil mamii's comment, he obviously isn't intelligent (just look how he spells) and he's a wuss...he doesn't have instant message up or list his e-mail because he's afraid. It's easy to be a dick when no one knows who you are.

Answer 4

There are a lot of opportunities out there for you. There's day care centers, even some on campuses. There's government assistance with things like financing college. If you believe in yourself and work at it, it is possible. Many professors will help struggling students and there's usually an academic resource center as well. Use the resources that you have available and work hard and it is possible. I wish ya the best!

Answer 5

You are in the same boat I once was in.

I had my daughter when I was just about to turn 16. Now she will be 18 tomorrow and just finished her first semester in college.

It was hard but you know what, you're actually lucky now.

You can put your mind to absolutely anything you want to do. I took night classes when I was younger -- I went to school weekends -- I even when to one school that had child care.

Look around -- you'll be surprised what you find.

You can go to college online. You can get student loans.

I go to school online right now. www.bridgeport.edu is where i go but many other reputable colleges have degrees entirely online.

Besides that, you can rely on friends and family to watch your son. If not, I would suggest someone older to watch them. The younger the person was that used to watch my kids, the more irresponsible I found them to be.

Of course, that's not true in every case, but it's just my experience.

You can totally do this.

Answer 6

I was you 13 years ago. My best advice, do whatever you need to do to get your college degree. Family and friends are always good alternatives to a professional day care center, but not always reliable. Make an effort to research which schools have programs for students with children.

You can also apply public assistance. I was on public assistance for the first year after I had my daughter. Don't feel ashamed. It's there for people who need it...not for people who abuse it by handing it down from generation to generation. I can only speak from my experience, but being on public assistance reinforced my need to advance my living situation and I worked harder to find a job and career because of it.

Whatever you do, make sure you research programs and get your degree. And you can do it. I'm living proof!

Answer 7

I had a daughter when I was 17. I am now 30 I'm in nursing school and we are doing fine. Its is going to be harder for you than if you had waited but if you love that baby and want what is best I know you both will be fine. Also, you can never have to much education. GO TO COLLEGE!

Answer 8

you can do it. go to college and still have your child. I did it with four children and it took me five long years of no funds, barely making it, but always getting what I needed to go another day. Most colleges consider Saturday's full time if you take three courses that day, that leaves the rest of the week for work and play in the evenings and qualifies you for a grant. good luck, I will light a candle for you

Answer 9

find a church and see if they have daycare. yes u can do it. and when u go to school they give u money. youll qualify. and u are making the right choice by going back to school to better you and your sons future. oh and sometimes they have daycare at some colleges. good luck! and God bless

and lil mami... what the hell did u just say???

Answer 10

I'm not sure why this questions is in the lesbian, and gay category but hopefully you'll work things out. Just remain patient. There are many single parents out there that make it work and you will too. Just take the time to sort everything out, all you can do is your best.

Answer 11

What seemed to be mistakes in our lives later becomes our biggest blessings. Ever thought of correspondence learning? this way you can get an education and be with your son.