I have a problem wih people (especially people I don't know) rubbing my pregnant belly. I am about 30 weeks and it's driving me insane. Not only does it make me uncomfortable, but my fiance doesn't like people touching me neither. He asks me why I don't say anything. What can I say?! How do I let someone know that they have overstepped their bounderies (oftentimes by not even having the decency to ask first) so that it won't happen again??
2006-12-20 07:00:01 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Tell them you feel uncomfortable with them violating your personal space.
I usually ask the woman if it is okay before I rub...
2006-12-20 07:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Buttercup - VP Bamma Fan Club 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate this. I have just been stepping back when someone tries too. The thing is alot of the woman that do it have been pregnant before and didn't like it when it was done to them. I don't know what makes them think that others appreciate it. I try not to worry about it too much even though it really does bother me because god forbid something ever happened or even when I give birth I think that I just might miss it. If backing up doesn't work, then I just simply ask them to not touch me. It's really a hard thing to do but I try.
Good Luck and Congrats.
2006-12-20 07:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've always had issues with my belly being touched...even before I was pregnant. I flat out told my family it makes me uncomfortable and they, for the most part respected it. Toward the end it didn't bother me as much, so I let them touch my tummy a little more.
As for strangers, I must just look pissy or something, because I never had a stranger (that I can remember) try to touch my stomach. But I have heard this complaint from a lot of mothers to be. I guess I just go lucky.
I have heard people say to turn away or block your stomach if you notice someone coming. I've also seen suggestions to just flat out tell the person, "I don't know you, please don't touch me"
2006-12-20 07:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with people rubbing my stomach. For the most part if I knew them I didn't mind as long as they asked first, but when I was in public I just kept my hand or my arm on my stomach as a barrier between me and unwanted roaming hands. It seemed to work really well and I never felt like I was being rude to people who wanted to touch my stomach.
2006-12-20 07:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you can usually see them approaching for this. You just need to put your arm out with your hand in the "stop" position, step back slightly, smile broadly, and say, "Oh, I'm sorry, no. Since I've become pregnant I have this really exaggerated sense of my own personal space. Nobody gets to rub this Buddha belly but my baby's daddy." Cross your arms over your belly, and then just laugh it off and move away as gracefully as possible. They will get the message, and you will have thwarted their attack.
2006-12-20 07:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by Rvn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm good there with you. i'm 30 weeks with #2 and do not choose strangers touching me both. we do not bypass round touching strangers so what provides them good to the contact us. I even experience awkward round human beings i do not understand too nicely (like some human beings at artwork). I used to ask different pregnant women human beings if i ought to experience at the same time as the toddler replaced into kicking and that i ought to tell with the help of their reaction in the experience that they wanted me to the contact or not. possibly lets initiate wearing shirts that say "do not contact me, Mommy's hormonal!" and then human beings receives the hint. LOL! I in many circumstances take a step decrease back or turn faraway from strangers in the experience that they contact my abdomen. positioned on your gorgeous maternity clothing although. If i imagine of a significantly better answer, i will inform you.
2016-12-01 00:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated this too. I would just cover my belly with both arms and turn away from them with a smile on my face and say no no! I'm ticklish! It was a polite way to get them to stop, though what they were doing wasn't very polite, you should always ask a woman if you can touch her belly. God bless!
2006-12-20 07:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either yell, say ouch and tell them, after they startle or apologize for hurting you, that they hurt your feelings by not asking if they could touch you first OR touch their belly back, if they say something about you being not aloud to touch them use it as an opportunity to educate them. Then again you could just be a wise guy and say something like "oh, I thought that was the way you said hello"...or "my sediments Exactly"
2006-12-20 07:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by tana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's so invasive and odd that strangers do this. I also got asked questions like, "Are you going to deliver vaginally?" "Was the baby planned?" by perfect strangers!
Despite this, I'll offer the experience of a friend of mine. She was horrified by this throughout her pregnancy. She said a year later a coworker she didn't really know was very pregnant and she found herself reaching out and touching the woman's stomach!
I'm not saying it's excusable, I'm just saying sometimes people are so raptured by pregnant women they do things without thinking.
2006-12-20 07:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by eli_star 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If it's a woman you don't know and she asks if she can feel your belly, ask her if you can grab her breasts. LOL! But seriously!
If they don't even ask, start rubbing theirs and ask them, "how do you like it"?
I am only 4 months along and haven't had that happen this time. This is my 4th child. Good Luck!
2006-12-20 07:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by jlowe06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋