When i masturbate i can't get an orgasm. Why is this? Can someone please help! What can i do to get one?
2006-12-20 06:53:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
i have tried the shower head and other water things.
2006-12-20 06:58:05 · update #1
is there any particular spot. and wat do i do to it.
2006-12-21 03:31:05 · update #2
Female orgasms arn't like male- they don't just happen! The female orgasm is all about relaxation- if you can't relax and let it happen, it won't. Very simple. Relax, enjoy the way it feels, and don't focus on orgasm. There are some women who can't orgasm because they just can't relax about it. Just do what feels good for you and keep doing it- orgasm will follow eventually. Ignore what your friends tell you or what you see on TV or in porn. You may not get off the same way other people do- try a g-spot stimulating vibrator (you can buy those at the mall in Spencers, you don't need to go to a sex store) or try a massaging shower head on your clit. You arn't broken or anything like that- every woman can orgasm with the right stimulation and the right attitude.
2006-12-20 07:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are generally three types of orgasms that a woman can have: clitoral, vaginal, and anal. Clitoral tends to be the easiest for a woman to perform on herself. Since you've tried the water method, try getting some lubricant (KY or Astroglide) and work in a circular motion. You can vary the speeds to your liking. That is the cheapest experiment. You can also get a vibrator. Again, you can move this in a circular motion. Some women prefer just to keep it motionless on one spot.
Vaginal orgasms can be self induced, but is much harder. You can use your fingers, but any long object will do. Make sure it is long enough so that you'll never lose your grip on it. Many women use vegetables (ie. cucumbers) so they won't have to buy a real dildo or vibrator. Though vibrators tend to be used mostly on the clitoris, you can use a phallically shaped one for vaginal masterbation. A dildo is basically a vibrator without the batteries. You'll want to decide if you like the softer feeling ones or the harder ones. You can get ones that are curved and ones with a "finger" for clitoral pleasure.
Anal orgasms tend to be the most intense of the three, but aren't practiced as much amongst women. the same things for vaginal orgasms apply here, but it is VERY important that you use a flared object in this area. Your anus acts like a vacuum and will suck in anything that isn't flared out enough. A dildo and vibrator are a bad idea unless they are incredibly long. If you accidently get something stuck in your anus, go to a hospital immediately.
Good luck!
2006-12-20 15:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by hotdoggiegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried the the shower head...or any other water spigot for that matter? It's also not uncommon for women to get orgasm until they reach their 20's.
2006-12-20 14:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by [ΦΘΚ] PIяATE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to practice, alot! eventually you'll get it...
by other water things I take it you mean scoot your butt up underneath the bath faucet... my gf loves to do that.
2006-12-20 15:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a back massager and put it right on ur clit. hold it there for a while.
2006-12-20 15:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a vibrator my mom says it works like a charm
2006-12-20 14:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Lemur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.....you need clitoral stimulation.....
2006-12-20 14:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by Tab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋