Well im not sure about mariage but my girlfriend tryed dumping me and it was very sad but somehow i got her to change her mind & now the relationship is stronger.
2006-12-20 06:43:44
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answered by Luke B 2
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Oh Yeah...its much stronger. I've been married for 8 years and we've had a lot of things happen in that time. We've been to the brink of divorce many times but we know that we love and care about each other and we're best friends as well. If you just persevere and not give up so easily (as a lot of people do) then you probably can work it out.
Good Luck to you!
2006-12-20 14:45:45
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answered by heyyou0717 1
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Still dealing with a fresh one. My husband was always the one who wanted the exclusive relationship, who fell in love with me first, the one who made the relationship secure. He helped me get through a period of depression, and was always there for me. Recently I found out that he's been in a internet/phone relationship. He told the girl he missed her, called her baby, asked her about issues such as cheating, called her over and over during the day. They hadn't met yet, but from what i can tell he really did want to be with her. He even told her that when they are talking, he is smiling and happy, but when they are not he is not. It's a hard thing to find out and deal with. Especially not knowing for sure if he really wants THIS relationship anymore. He is no longer talking to her and wants to work things out. We've only been married for 3 years, our son is 18 months and baby #2 is due in March, so I can't just give up on him like i always thought I would if i was cheated on. I still feel so conflicted, it's hard to fight for it, but I have chosen to try to trust him and be with him and even now, we are spending more quality time together, and getting along better, because we are both putting in the effort. We'll see how things go in the near future. Wish us luck.
2006-12-20 14:49:53
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answered by Cyndi Storm 4
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My husband and I were married for 2 years when we started having a lot of problems. He was going out a lot and spending both our paychecks in the process. I realized something had to change. So I told him how i felt. That I really loved him but if he didn't change i was going to leave him. In my mind I loved him so much I didn't even know if i could if i had to. But Luckily we worked on it together. We have been happily married now for almost 7 years. And I'm am glad that i tried to make things better before calling it quits. I feel if you really want things to work they will. Love overpowers everything. You just have to give it a chance.
2006-12-20 14:51:19
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answered by purple_roses48 2
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Yes, from our 2nd to 4th year of marriage. We were broke, stressed over the kids, house falling apart, going to school and working like nuts. Both of us too tired and too immature to do what needed to be done to fix it. We fought over everything and said horrible things to each other, but we never reached a point of affairs or violence or anything.
We made it through. I am so glad we did. I was at a point where one more week of hell was all it would take for me to end it. But we could never go one full week of hell - always at some point we would be reminded of how much we loved each other and would make up.
I am convinced, however, that one more year of it would have killed us. What changed was I finished grad school and got a good job, and we moved to a new house. Everything has been better ever since.
2006-12-20 14:51:03
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answered by fucose_man 5
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I was in a 3 year relationship and we lived together, i am 21, she is now 20. We've split up but our relationship was like a marriage. We went through bad times, really bad times, she cheated on me, i cheated on her, but we always ended up back together... which is probably not a good thing. We split up over nothing, which seems to have me thinking... good luck whatever you do...
Remember you want something more when you cant have it... Is your other half being a bit of a pain??? Maybe a little break-up would do the trick ;)
2006-12-20 14:46:00
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answered by Limeyb 2
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My husband was having affairs and blamed our personal life was not very exciting. He was very weak where women are concerned. Any excuse to come home late at night or never turn up until following day.
We have beautiful kids and they love both of us very much. It was too cruel to brake our marriage saying that kids will understand or they will get used to the new situation. But I know the fact that the kids will adapt to the new life, in reality they will suffer in silent. They feel left out if one of us get married again. They may turn to wrong people for advise and end up bad.
I rather let him do what he want and give my kids a home to come to. I had my own life with the kids without any quarrel. We behaved in front of our kids. If he goes out I make sure that the kids are occupied and some time I go out with my friends leaving the kids with my sibling.
I lived like this for many years and accepted my life. I did love my husband but that doesn't mean I have to put up with his behaviour. He had his punishments without upsetting the kids.
At the end my husband did come back to me knowing that I made a good home. All the women became passing clouds.
Sadly he passed away now. Today the second anniversary of his death. I went to temple with my kids to say a prayer for his soul to rest in peace.
2006-12-20 18:25:27
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answered by shiningstar2808 3
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I am married, I haven't been married long, anyway, we have had some really hard times, my husband is from another country, and we have been seperated with zero contact several times, while he was serving a prison sentence in his home country, and waiting for visas etc.
God it was so hard, I seriously did want to pack it all in, but I married him, and so that to me is final.
I will now spoil this love story because I am currently having an affair, my husband knows, though it has never been spoken between us.
Basically, he knows that I am his wife, and I will never have another husband as long as he breaths, and that is enough for him to know he is always number one. He knows he could stop it at any point, and that I would do anything he asks of me, alot of people can't understand our relationship, and I don't blame them, if I was looking from the outside in at the situation I wouldn't understand it either!
He loves me though, and I love him, and no matter how the other one amuses themselves for while is of no concern, we are in this together. No one could love him like I do, and no one will ever love me like he does, and both of us agree that this is worth a little 'blindness' as long as we swear to be together until the end.
I seriously doubt your situation is anything like this, but hope it helps anyway!!
2006-12-20 14:51:42
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answered by CHARISMA 5
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I have been through marriage hell! After 2 years of marriage my husband started abusing prescription drugs. We lost our home, and shortly after I was diagnosed with a brain tumor. I stood by him through one rehab after another, hoping things would get better. My eyes saw the addict who had sold or pawned everything we owned, including my wedding ring, but my heart saw the 17 year old boy I had fallen in love with. I stood by him for ten years, but finally couldn't take it anymore. Our divorce was final Monday, so I am now the single mother of two beautiful children. Sometimes you have to think with your head even when your heart is hanging on.
2006-12-20 14:49:58
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answered by Amy M 1
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mine was so bad that I DID LEAVE, or she kicked me out I guess. For 5 months. Out of 20 years together. Nope, its still weakened, getting weaker by the week too. The last ten years have not been that great. Partly due to my illness. Partly to misunderstanding. Partly us getting bored with each other.
Most of the fighting for it happened in the first decade and not the second. Its kind of strong. I don't even trust her anymore. I think she cheated without telling me. And lied to me when I confronted her about it. When I find out, I might leave her. 50:50, depending on what she says and how long she makes me wait to find out.
2006-12-20 14:46:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Mine has had so many ups and downs.........we got married when we were 19 and had an awesome time, after we had our son at the ages of 22 he decided he couldn't handle it and began acting like he was single. he would leave and not come back till the next day, he would make it my fault that he cheated on me and i finally just realized it wasn't my fault and told him i was done. once he noticed i was leaving he begged me to day and asked me to forgive him. i loved him with everything and we both made it. 13 years later we are still together. It was rough, but we were determined to keep the lines of communication open, we are always laughing, our kids 7 and 10 are our world and we live for each other. I love it, we have just grown together and learned to respect each other.
Thanks for letting me dish my story. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-20 14:46:06
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answered by live, love, laugh often! 3
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