My husband and I have been trying for 2 years to have a baby. We are due in February with our first child! As you can imagine we are very excited. However, we were advised by our reproductive doctor that since we have the right recipe we should return to her in early Spring if we want to try for a second child. We took some time off this past April and went on two vacations and the next month when we resumed treatment we were pregnant!
We want to try for a second in late May with out doctor. My husband wants to go away to Mexico for a week before we start treatments back up. He knows how much of a physical toll as well as mental it takes on me and now we will also have a newborn to care for. My parents have offered to care for child while we away. My mom and dad have plenty of experience with children so I am not worried about that. We would take a direct flight so in case we had to return we would get home as fast as possible. Is it too soon to leave a newborn? Thank you!
2006-12-20 06:12:55 · 17 answers · asked by LeeLee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It all depends on how you feel. When I first had my son, I didn't want to leave him with anyone. Now he is 2 months and I feel comfortable leaving him with my mother and 1 cousin. It's all instinct...
2006-12-20 06:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you are probably just starting to figure out children have a way of clipping your wings. With the distance of 23 years since my youngest was a newborn I'd say go - you can consider it your last fling before you really settle in to parenthood. The child will be 3 months old by then and your parents would love some alone time with the new grandbaby. I do tend to agree with some of the other answers on here that you may not want to leave your child by then. The maternal bond is a lot stronger than you can imagine. I advise not to make reservations until after the baby is born. You never know...
However, I'm more concerned about you wanting to get pregnant again so soon. You may want to reconsider that and give it a few more months or at least a year after the birth of the first child. Infants can be unbelivably demanding and parenthood is very stressful. Just a thought....
2006-12-20 06:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by PRS 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until after you have the baby to make this sort of decision. A week away from a baby means you probably would not be breastfeeding at that point. You may find that it is important to you to continue breastfeeding for a few months at least. Also, you may find after going through an actual birth and dealing with a newborn that you simply want to wait a bit longer before having another. Some people prefer to have 2-3 years or even longer between children; I personally see the benifits in having the first potty trained before having another. :-)
2006-12-20 06:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by doxhaelend 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's typically advised that you wait a whole year before you even begin trying to get PG again. Your body needs time to recover. Plus, if you are breastfeeding, you might not even be ovulating again yet. Getting pregnant while nursing can also jeopardize your milk supply. Personally, I'd worry about what is best for THIS baby (a healthy mom and breastfeeding as long as possible?) instead of worrying about conceiving the next one so quickly. Personally, I'd only leave a child that young for a few hours.....absolutely not a week! Yes, IMO, 3 months of age is too young to leave a baby for a whole week. A 3 mos old doesn't even have a sense of permenence of objects yet.....in other words your baby won't understand yet that you still exhist when you can't be seen/heard/felt/tasted/smelled at that young age.
2006-12-20 06:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your child will be 3 months old by then, right? Also, how long will you be gone? A week?
The main thing I can think of is whether you'll be breastfeeding your child. If so, then you'll need to be sure to pump a lot of milk ahead of time to last the whole time you're gone, plus you'll need to bring your breast pump with you on vacation to make sure your milk supply doesn't diminish while you're away.
Other than that, I don't see it being a "problem," per se, but I'm willing to bet you'll have a very hard time being apart from your first newborn so early on. I cried like a baby the first time I had to leave my first child (for five days) and she was already 5 months old at that time.
2006-12-20 06:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Neeners 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all CONGRATUALTIONS :) !!!!! The baby will be 3-4 months old then, its fine to leave him/her with your parents. However, in my opinion, I would cancel the trip OR make it a weekend trip. Im not saying that to be mean or judgemental or anything, believe me. You will completely understand when the baby arrives. You are going to be so attached to that baby that a week will seem like an eternity to be away. You wont have any fun. I would only go for a day or two.
2006-12-20 06:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is all up to you. If you feel comfortable leaving the baby that early then it's fine. There is nothing wrong with taking a little "ME" time. It will probably be pretty hard on you though, so be prepared. You know your parents will take good care of baby, so try to have a good time.
2006-12-20 06:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by SHELLBELL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am I understanding this correctly? You are expecting a baby in February and are trying to figure out if you can go on vacation in May and not take YOUR baby with you? And when you succeed and have a 2nd child will you take them both on vacation with you or leave them with your mom then too? I don't think I am understanding.
2006-12-20 06:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Psalm91 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go.......I am just that way though. I feel like if you had to struggle so hard to get this one, doesn't it seem a tad selfish to take off so soon after the birth? Also, it take 9 months to make a baby and another 9 months to heal inside from doing this. I would wait for a little while before trying again...... Give some time to enjoy your new blessing and take time to recover and relax for a spell...... my opinion only, do with it what you will.....good luck regardless
2006-12-20 06:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 13:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋