My boyfriend has told me several things that tells me he cares for me such as "I am falling and have fallen for you", "You are wonderful", "Your the perfect High" when we are together. I go to his work and he kisses me infront of everyone. Here is the thing. Him spending time with me (just him and me) is so random.. He can never schedual plans with me cause he has so much going on in his life. Lots of times he calls and goes "Hey lets get together" but then has to leave later for something else that he has to do. How do other women deal with a man like this?
2006-12-20 06:07:09 · 10 answers · asked by movu101779 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I want to fix this before our relationship goes down the drain so soon.
2006-12-20 06:08:12 · update #1
Things I know are on his "plate"
Work at gas station 7 days a week. (Yes I know he is there every day)
2 bands he plays in and has practice.
(yes I know his schedual. Music has always been a passion of his.)
His little girl - He does not have custody so he spends what he can with her.
Other- Me and time to sleep.
2006-12-20 06:27:42 · update #2
Try picking a day or evening once a week thats "Your Couple" time .... just for you too ... carve the time in stone and be there Hell or high Water ......see how that works ....
A relationship is compromise .... you pick a day ...and he picks a day ..... then see how well you work on getting to keep the date !
If it works out ...do something different each time you meet ....make each moment a special event .... so you both look forward to it and it leaves a good memory !
Good Luck !
2006-12-20 06:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With patience and understanding if you can. I understand how you feel. You just would like him close and because your in love you want to see him more.
Maybe you should give him sometime to get things in order. Give him space. Think about whatever is on his "plate" at the moment and if you aren't just another burden.
If you pressure him though you will be seeing a whole lot less of him. I pressured for more time together and he is gone.
None of these are easy things to do. But if you can take the stress off of him, maybe when he is done he will be back. I know myself well enough to know that if I kept seeing him I would want to spend more and more time with hiim.
2006-12-20 06:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the only thing you can really do is talk to him about it. Tell him that you need some organization in your relationship. Tell him that you need to make plans together. Suggest that you plan a weekend gettaway together. He may need a little bit of coaching. If he is willing to try to change, be patient and give him phrase when he does something good. If he isnt willing to change things even a little bit you are going to have to get used to it or get over it. Good Luck.
2006-12-20 06:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by ashleyod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds fishy. If he loves you and it is more than for show, then he'd want to be with you all the time. I think as his girlfriend you have a right to know honestly where you stand. I'd ask outright, "Why does it seem that whenever I want to make a plan, you've got something else going on?" "What's more important than me?" Put him on the spot. if you don't like his answer, set him free to hurt someone else. Good luck and don't be wishywashy. You have a right to a boyfriend who is really into you not someone who talks a good game.
2006-12-20 06:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 13:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really loves you, then he'll find the time to spend with you. Sometimes his job may get in the way but make sure it's his job and not another woman.
2006-12-20 06:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey is sad to tell you but you need to move on... I am in the same position because at his job in the Gov...And still I will tell him tonight that I don't want to seen him anymore...Some people are just like that...Nobody will deal with a relationship like that...Sometimes people say all that kind the nice things because that is what girls like to hear...And because is easy for them to say all that nice things...But if is any truth on this words no at all.
2006-12-20 06:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably feel hurt because it seems you aren't his priority.
But if he truely has important things to do, it seems he is trying his best to do those things and please you too. Try and be more understanding and cherish the times you are together.
If he didn't care, he wouldn't be seeing you.
Hope that helps.
2006-12-20 06:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to spend most of your time together,you will get bored.give him his own private time,same way you should have your own private time for your self.don't ever forget that you have family and friends,spend time with them as well.too much of each other is suffocating.....
2006-12-20 06:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by dra shelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, ask him why you can't attend with him? It almost sounds like he's doing and saying just enough to keep you. Be cautious.
2006-12-20 06:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by matthaumschild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋