I am married to this man for 5years and he made me and my family what we are today. I have two kids for him, but I don´t Love him anymore, even when we lie in the bed I saw him as an enemy.
I don´t know what to do because I don´t want to hurt him.
Should I stay with him and look for another one outside for affair just to please him or should I leave him. ( I have no feelings for him anymore)
2006-12-20 06:06:20 · 11 answers · asked by nneka o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you considered counseling to find out WHY you no longer love him? Did you EVER?
2006-12-20 06:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you see him as an enemy, why are you afraid to hurt him? I would tell him and get out of the marriage now. It's better than hurting him more later on by cheating on him. It's never easy being in a relationship where there is no love anymore. If there is a way to regain some kind of love for him I would try because you do have 2 kids! Think about their welfare.
2006-12-20 14:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need a vacation away with the girls.
Whenever life gets as stressed out as you sound, its always good for some old fashion YOU time. Get away and clear your head and ask yourself... what do I really want out of life and how am I going to get it. I feel some resentment in your comments. Make sure that you are not angry about something he is unaware of.
Take care of yourself.
2006-12-20 14:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its mindless person like you who mess up a good person and married you say you fall out of love did you ever think what have you brought to this married no you just took your husband is tried of your **** as while go get a divorce youre not worth his time and leave the kids with him aswhile so you dont get tried of being a momie and i hope you find another fool who like a mindless person
2006-12-20 14:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him this! You are going to hurt him no matter what so get it out in the open and tell him. You will hurt him more if you continue to live a lie with him!
2006-12-20 14:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made you fall in love with him in the first place? Reguardless of what some may advise, divorce is not the answer unless he is cheating on you. Look for what you attracted to before you "fell out of love" and talk to him about things that are bothering you! Please seek counsiling it may help!
2006-12-20 15:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by hey_there_heathe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think the answer pretty obvious, divorce and go your separate ways so BOTH of you have a chance to find some kind of happiness.
2006-12-20 15:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to examine yourself and find out why you no longer love him. Did you at one time?
Talk to him about it, if he truly loves you he will want to understand your feelings. You should go to counseling with him.
Good luck.
2006-12-20 14:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him it's time to go. Why stay if you have no feeling towards him.
2006-12-20 14:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please leave him and don't worry about hurting him. In the long run you're hurting him more by not loving him and keeping him so that he can't move on.
2006-12-20 14:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋