My husband think I am spoiling my baby. Is it bad that I pick her up after 5 or 10 minutes of crying?? Even if her diaper isnt wet or she isnt hungry? Isn't she too young yet to be left alone?
2006-12-20 05:50:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You can't spoil an infant. I also think she's too young to "cry it out" although others may disagree. However, work on getting her to fall asleep on her own (instead of letting her fall asleep in your arms), and try comforting her without picking her up. By and large, I think at 7 months, picking her up is just fine.
You CAN start to foster some independence by leaving her with different caregivers (you husband, relatives, a sitter) for short periods of time.
2006-12-20 06:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by eli_star 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why leave her 5-10 mins? If she's crying and you can pick her up (ie not on the tiolet, etc) there is nothing at all wrong with picking her up. It shows her you care and helps her feel comforted and secure.
You can't spoil a baby with love and attention. You could spoil her if, say, she bit you while nurisng and you just let her continue to bite you, or if you bought her every single toy or gave her chocolate cake just because she reached for it (but you know very well it's bad for her this young).
2006-12-20 14:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by doxhaelend 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same question. I think that I am doing the right thing. All the books say you can't spoil a baby. Sometimes I try to put different toys on his walker and they distract him. Your child may be tired. My son often fights his sleep. Her rubbing her eyes will tell you. If she is tired you should try for 15 minutes to get her down, but if it doesn't work let her fuss until she falls asleep. Go back and check on her every ten minutes.
2006-12-20 13:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really cant spoil an infant. There's always a reason for crying at that age, even if it's because she's lonely. Go ahead and pick her up if she needs it, hubby can entertain himself better than your baby can. If after 1 1/2 years she's still doing it, then that MIGHT be considered spoiling. But I'll bet she finds some way to entertain herself at that age.
2006-12-20 13:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by moonshadow 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
babies need security...they need to know you are there for them. my son is spoiled rotten and i will be the first to admit it but he is 6 months old and doesnt understand why i wont pick him up when he cries even if he doesnt have a reason. they cant tell you mommy i want a hug or just to sit on your lap so crying is the only way they have to communicate and i dont think that attending to your childs needs is spoiling
2006-12-20 14:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by hhudson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not spoiling her if u just want a cuddle. although shes at the age that she knows if she crys she will be lifted, so it might lead to spoling her. try to pick her up more when shes NOT crying, and she will learn that she doesnt need to cry to be picked up
2006-12-20 14:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of picking her up everytimes she cries maybe you could:
1) offer a toy
2) offer a pacifier
3) comfort baby w/o picking her up-- talk/sing to baby
4) play w/ baby w/o picking her
5) change the baby's position-- put him/ her is swing, on floor, etc.
I have an 8 month old & I personally wouldn't let him cry for 5 or 10 min.-- I would try to comfort him-- but I wouldn't pick him up everytime. There are many ways to come to your baby's rescue w/o picking her up.
2006-12-20 13:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by Proud mother! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its ok to pick her up, soothe her and then put her back down. If there is nothing wrong you should make the amount of time longer between each time that you pick her up. Go from five to ten to fifteen to twenty minutes. This is the theory of some doctor but I can't remember his name. The point is that she will have to start soothing herself. Which is good for her to learn to do.
2006-12-20 13:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by queenbuck79 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are her mother and you know whats best for her. Do what feels right and everything will be just fine. My son is 5 months old and I pick him up all the time, don't get me wrong he is very independant and sometimes just wants to be left alone in his Jumperoo to play but when he needs to held or cuddled, I do it.
So just do what feels right for you!
2006-12-20 13:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being held is a true NEED at this age. A baby this age doesn't cry to manipulate.....she crys to communicate. You should pick her up as soon as you can and see what she needs. If it's just that she wants you, that's FINE.
2006-12-20 14:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋