Why are people being judgemental?

Question

At first I found this site interesting b/c I thought it was a place where you could ask any question you want and get other people's opinions whether good or bad. But it seems to me there are people that are only out to judge you. If you dont agree, dont answer the question or just say you think the person is wrong. Why result to name calling? No one is perfect. It seems that any question in regards to relationships, people act like they are in perfect ones. Well, I'm sorry but I'm not, I'm human,not a whore or "skank". Am I the only one that feels this way? Does my imperfections make me a bad person?

Answer 1

Each an everyone in a long term relationship knows exactly what you're going through. We know that a good relationship is never perfect. I suggest ignore the ignorant ones, or just report them for abuse. Downrate them cos they think they can score by answering. Thank you for telling it like it is.

Answer 2

I guess it depends on the nature of the question. I've found some of the answers to be well thought out and very helpful, usually under the categories of business, home improvement, etc. The more judgmental answers come from the Family and Relationship sub-categories.

There's no need for name-calling, I agree. No one is perfect. I can't speak for everyone, but there are questions that I find really annoying, for example:

1. Does he/she like me?
2. Am I pregnant?
3. How will I know when I'll get married?
4. Do you know_______ (insert name)
5. Any of the "Does your White Wife..." questions

Overall, I think it's a great site. Unfortunately some people (asking and answering questions) don't respect its intent and abuse it.

Answer 3

You're not a bad person. I like you. I understand the way you feel. But when you put yourself out there by asking a question, you may not get the anwer you're looking for. I may disagree with somebody, but it's just to show a different point of view. I totally agree with you on the name calling and all that. That's unnecessary. People need to learn to have a little more respect, especially towards women. Alot of guys why they wonder why they don't have a girl. Well, if they new anything about respect, they might get somewhere.

Answer 4

I think it's hysterical to read "Ignore the bad ones, only pay attention to the nice ones" LOL so that means you'll be judging? Now you're judging people as acting like they're perfect, so you're judging the people you're accusing of judging? You're calling people judgmental, so isn't that name-calling? Or because you're judging people by calling them judgmental, it's ok? But putting yourself above the other "judgmental" people, saying "I don't judge like THEY do because THEY'RE judgmental and I'm not, so therefore I'm a much nicer person than THEY are" is one of the most hypocritical things I've read all day. And then to post this question to back up your judgmental attitude is ridiculous.
Have a nice day.

Answer 5

Well...

Being judgmental, for many, begins as something helpful, but ends up turning into something very negative. Most people don't realize this happening, unfortunately.

When left unchecked, this ends up turning into a sort of "self-righteousness"....and this is very very bad.

Christians should contemplate upon the message of "Judge not, lest ye be Judged".....the sentiment of which is repeated several times in the Bible, not verbatim, but in various forms, not the least of which was Christ's admonishment of "Let him who is without sin, throw the first stone.".....

All other religions have staunch warnings about being judgmental as well.

Even for those without religion, it should be apparent that being judgmental is a form of pride and vanity, both of which are very wrong.

People all over the modern world are suffering from a great lack of compassion. It is the great plague of our time. If we are ever going to even come close to addressing the problems of our world, we need to address that one first.

Namaste,

--Tom

Answer 6

Don't take it personal. A lot of people come to Yahoo Answers to vent. They are frustrated and want someone to berate. Take it with a grain of salt. Sometimes you can get some really good answers to your questions, and sometimes you get the judgemental ones. What I have discovered is that people who have been through a similar situation can usually advise you. People who are judgemental are usually on the outside of relationships, ranting and raving about what they wouldn't couldn't and shouldn't put up with. Pay it no mind. And remember also that some people are bitter and scorned. For example someone who has been cheated on might be extra sensivie about cheating questions, etc. Sift through those and get to the good ones. But whenever you ask for advice, you have to be able to take the good with the bad.

Answer 7

Judging is normal, although being rude and ugly is uncalled for. People who name call show their own insecurities. Making fun of others helps them to feel better about themselves...those are the people you should feel sorry for because they obviously have issues that need to be addressed.

As your questions, within the Community Guidelines...people who reply inappropriately should be reported. If more people did that, fewer of those 'types' would be here taking away the fun of those who would like to enjoy a site where flaming, and filth aren't part of the game.

Answer 8

I can usually tell when someone asks a sincere question and I would never belittle them in an answer. There are however, some really bizarre people out here who I usually classify as a jerk or a moron in my answer. I would never refer to anyone as a whore or a skank, or any other derogatory name. To each there own.

Answer 9

If you act like one, people will assume you are one. If you sleep with married men, people are entitled to judge you as a skank. If you're under age and messing with older men, people are entitled to tell you you're wrong. Screwing a married man isn't an "imperfection" it's a choice that damages many people, and our society as a whole. If you post that sort of thing on an internet site, don't be surprised if you find people take offense to adultery.
You're being judgmental if you decide who is mean or who isn't based on what suits your little realm of experience. If YOU don't agree, don't judge other people's answers.

Answer 10

No Lovey you are not alone. You just have to sift thru some answers sometimes. There are quite alot of good intelligent people on here, they just tend to be more quiet about it and don't feel the need to inflict thier opinions. Keep looking Doll, you'll see them. And I apologize for my "name calling" on here but I try to make everyone feel at least a little better/loved and I (suffer from the delusion) like to think that my endearments show that.

*Happy Holidays Dear One*