Ok, I know that he is not cheating but he is always lying to me. I wonder if he is doing drugs. Money is disappearing from my walet. My jewelry and then he tells me it wan't him. No one comes to the house. he doesn't work. What more can I do?
2006-12-20 05:39:46 · 27 answers · asked by kayla_lopez_2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to decide how much you love him and how much you are willing to put up with. You are probably right in that he is stealing from you, whether it's for drugs or something else you'll have to find out but your decision is either to leave because you can't handle a spouse that lies to you or confront him and see him through his "recovery", whatever it may be.
2006-12-20 05:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by scorpio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hide all your belongings until you are away from him. You can't change him, he can only do that for himself. At the end of my last marriage....I kept all my important jewelry and my secret bank acct. book in a safety deposit box. Or if you have family near by that you trust, buy a little lock box and keep that stuff there. I never kept more than 5 dollars in my wallet. I had all my bank acct. documents in my mothers address or you could get a po box in a nearby city. One thing I've learned with men these days, keep your belongings separate!!!!! And always, always have a savings acct. in your own name w/ a trustworthy family member as beneficiary. That way if the going gets tough, you've got a stash to get you to a safe place.
2006-12-20 05:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, here you are again talking about that lazy no good man of yours. From what you said in a question from earlier today you were deciding what to do with your relationship to me it seems like you need the have people tell you that what you know you have to do is the right thing. Stop seeking validation from us and do what is best for you and your family. Leave the guy!
2006-12-20 05:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by LaReyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sucks. He is a parasite. If it is drugs then give him an altimatum about rehab. This is no joke.
If it is just drug addiction, then the problem will be solved if he loves you, he will get help. Call Alocoholics Annoynomous hotline and ask for suggestions.
This issue will only get worse. You need to be strong and loving and nip it in the bud.
2006-12-20 05:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like it is him stealing from you.....that is unacceptable. If you have that gut instinct he is stealing, he probably is...my husband lies to me all the time, about small stupid things, but he doesn't steal from me!! You really need to lay down the law and tell him that he needs to be honest with you or you will leave him. If he is doing drugs and stealing from you, you need to know about it and try to get him some help! As soon as possible. I am sorry you are going through this.
Happy Holidays.
2006-12-20 06:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's cheating unless the druggie friend is a woman and he is so hooked on drugs til he will do anything for it....He must be on drugs....You need to make him go to rehab...If he refuses to go, take him or lock him out of the house until he goes...
2006-12-20 07:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might be on the pipe. That's right, the pipe. Cocaine is a hell of a drug. Either that or he's hiring some prostitutes. Get out honey. Put your sneakers on, hike your skirt up and 400 meter dash it out. Run like if Jason Vorhees were after you.
2006-12-20 06:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by 2timer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like he may have some sort of habit. Personally I would kick him out. Well I would do that if you can't get to the bottom of what's going on. He's obviously hiding something from you. IF you don't have trust in a relationship, what do you have?
2006-12-20 05:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you can't figure this one out?
First, why is your wallet out..... hide it.... put your jewelry in a safe deposit box, or hide it. And why doesn't he work?
And the last question: Why would you wish to continue to be with a guy you suspect of stealing from you and who doesn"t have a job. (I'm assuming is is not disabled....)
2006-12-20 08:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HATE TO SAY IT BUT U R RIGHT DRUGS.....GO TO THE DRUG STORE BUY A KIT AND WHEN HE GETS HOME FROM HIS "I JUST WENT TO THE STORE " STORY MAKE HIM PEE IN THE CUP WHILE YOU WATCH. IF HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH IT THAN HE IS USING. HE WILL CALL YOU OUT AND TELL YOU HOW DARE YOU EVEN THINK THAT I WOULD USE DOPE, WHEN IN FACT HE IS. HAVE A BAG PACKED AND PRETEND YOU WILL LEAVE HIM IF DOESNT PEE . ITS THE ONLY WAY TO KNOW FOR SURE......SORRY
2006-12-20 05:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by that girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋