My husband came home from work yesterday with a carton of cigs wrapped like a present. He said about five times "Oh, the girls were teasing me and gave me these". I didn't really think anything of it I just thought "Hey! Free smokes!" LOL But all night he kept saying it.
He used to tell me about a girl at work who he always told that she was sexy. That did bother me a bit but it's since been a year and I'm not worried about any of them any more. I know he flirts when he's out. I don't know why but it just doesn't make me angry like it used to.
It might be important to add we haven't had sex for over a year and only been together for three. But I still wonder if he's trying to make me jealous why? After I wouldn't take the bait he seemed a little quiet for the rest of the night, but that's on him because I'm not going to cry because some girls gave him cigs. We are both adults and I'm not going to act otherwise.
What do you think, was he trying to make me jealous?
2006-12-20 05:38:10 · 17 answers · asked by musicpanther67 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, I should add he doesn't tell me I'm pretty or smart or anything. I may not be beautiful but I am not stupid. He does tell me that a lot.
2006-12-20 05:39:39 · update #1
Edit: I do WANT sex with him. But he's not into it. With his previous wife it was the same way. They went over a year without sex. In my previous relationships I didn't go more than a few days. Whenever I approach him he literaly flinches. Ok, I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world but I am secure with my sexuality and I know that I am uh..good at it. LOL I am a caring and generally happy person.
I am not feeling insecure over cigs btw I said I didn't really care. Hey, they were free! LOL
2006-12-20 05:50:56 · update #2
CAN I POINT OUT AGAIN?? IT IS NOT MY IDEA TO NOT HAVE SEX! I WOULD LOVE TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM. HE HAS NO INTEREST. PLEASE BEAR THAT IN MIND. I HAVE THE INTEREST. THANK YOU.
2006-12-20 06:02:27 · update #3
It seems like you guys have other issues at hand, if you are not having sex, etc. It sounds like he was trying to make you jealous. Its good that you didn't react to him, rubbing it in your face. Good for you. Why haven't you had sex in a year? That would really bother me. He must think you are smart and pretty because he is still with you! Everyone should learn from your attitude, not getting jealous.
2006-12-20 05:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if he has someone at work that admires him, sounds as if he may have a low self worth, and wants to brag about the girls at work giving him the free cigs, but a man with a low self worth, who has not had sex in a while, is a prime target for temptation from one of the girls. think u had best start having sex more regularly, or that man is going to be having an affair. men have fragile ego's, if some strange woman flatters him, when he is so vonarable than he may just go for it, protect your interest, act as if u value him, and love him, before someone else does.
2006-12-20 05:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it definitely sounds like he wants attention from you. Maybe he is trying to make you feel jealous about other women so that you can show him some affection.
You never mentioned why you and hubby have not been intimate in over a year. Did you reject him? Did he do something to turn you off from wanting to be intimate with him? You did mention that he doesn't compliment you - that's enough to turn most women off.
I think you should try to understand the reason behind the lack of sexual intimacy in your relationship first and see if you can fix that issue. Then maybe your husband won't be as inclined to try to use other women to make you jealous.
2006-12-20 05:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry as much about whether or not he's "trying" to make you jealous. I would be worried sick about why you haven't had sex with your husband in a year. Do you realize your marriage is in SERIOUS trouble? If he's not getting it from you, honey, he's either getting it somewhere else, or he WILL get it somewhere else eventually. Get yourselves into counseling, NOW. (And for the record, I think he was probably trying to make you jealous. He probably wonders if you are interested in him at all, or think he's sexy, or CARE about whether or not he is telling other women at work that they're "sexy". You SHOULD care, you know.)
2006-12-20 05:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how sad youre should be the most important person in his life i feel you need married counseling and no sex for a year that not good please go get the help you need sexless married is not good and i can feel your pain by your words because i was in the same boat my wife used to make me feel as i was no one and i move out and file a divorce i now i have the kids and i am so happy now life too short to be so unhappy good luck and i hope he choke on his cigs
2006-12-20 05:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whos cares about him trying to make you jealous, you should be more worried about why you guys haven't sex in over a year when you've only been together 3 years.
2006-12-20 05:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by RAIDERBETO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes,see I have a problem with you!Why are you with a person, that you say is your husband and you haven't slept with him in a year? Trying to make you jealous? Baby, no one has a perfect marriage, but you may want to ask yourself do you want to be involved with someone who's not into you! Hell with the cigarettes,you have bigger issues!He better be very lucky you and I aren't friends!!!!Don't cry, because it is nothing to cry about,but your not happy. "you deserve so much more and better!!
2006-12-20 06:19:30 · answer #7 · answered by hot chocolate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes he is...he wants u to get jealous to show that u care...i know that if i hadn't had sex with my spouse for over a year i wud do everything i can to get them to show they care and still love me...hes trying to make u jealous so u will say something lyk they better leave u alone or somethin of that nature so that he knows u still want him..the reason he probably got quiet is it probably came off as if u didnt care what girls do its not important.....go on a date just the 2 of you or have a romantic evening to show him u do care and he doesnt have to try and make u jealous for you to show it...
2006-12-20 05:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real d*ck. Why'd you marry this loser? You said he "flirts when he's out." You are comfortable with that? Cause I sure as heck wouldn't be. And what husband tells his wife that chicks at work call him 'sexy.' Ew leave him. He sounds like a real scumbag.
And no sex? WHY are you with him?
2006-12-20 05:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't had sex for over a year? Crap! I would worry if I was you. Maybe he was letting you know that there are other women out there who find him attractive and if you aren't putting out, someone else will. Unless it's because of him, you aren't having sex?
2006-12-20 05:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋