I wanna move back where I came from, witch is only 25 min where I live not, I just want a slower moving city and closer to work to live in. My husband told me last night he would not move out of the city we live in cause of his mom. He will not leave her with out anyone near by. I am very hurt by this. I drive 45 min to work each way everyday. Its hard on me, I dont feel like he cares as long as his mom doesnt feel like he left her. What should I do
2006-12-20 05:27:05 · 10 answers · asked by Lora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to his mom, and explain why you want to move. and if she gets upset, mabye you could arrange for the both of you to go visit her a couple times a week. once he knows that his mom is ok with you guys moving, he'll be more open to the situation.
2006-12-20 05:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was you ill sit him down tell him how you feel that it not right right he made you make all of these changes not only you don't live in you home town but now you need to drive 45 min that's crazy u should also tell him that he needs to think about you and your needs. Your his WIFE and even thought a mom plays a big part in his life the wife needs to come first!
2006-12-20 05:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the bible say he to give up his mother and father and you as while for each other that why married fall apart we dont do as we should there a old says when do your husband know when his wife is gone when the dishing are over flowing in the sink it sound as if it time to move out if he love you as he should he follow you to the end of the earth that what a mirried is about good luck
2006-12-20 05:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he her only child that can take care of her...is she a widow?
Well you could move back to YOUR mom...and move HIS mom in with you.
45 minutes one way....girl....TRY 1 hour and 45 minutes in bumper to bumper - ONE WAY -now that is a drive!!!!
Put other people first - we all do things we don't want to do and this is not a perfect world..
Your married - your working - your healthy....and your problem is WHAT????
2006-12-20 05:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start out by respecting his concern and care for his mother. If he genuinely is concerned for her welfare then he is trying to be a good man. Then ask him to acknowledge your needs also. If he truly is good he will be concerned for you also. Then look for a compromise. Maybe moving a little a little distance rather than the whole distance. Or taking your mother in law also. Remember - care, compassion and love.
2006-12-20 05:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you should have done is known how he felt about her before you married him. I would have thought it would have been obvious. And if you married him thinking "this will change after we're married", you have learned a valuable, but very costly, lesson.
What should you do? Your choice is simple. Which is more important to you: the distance and time it takes you to get to work and back or your marriage?
2006-12-20 05:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ewwww.... a momma's boy, (who pretends hes a man). i could see his point if she was disabled or something, but if not... NOPE.
let me guess, he calls his mommys every day; whine, complain, and tells his mommy how mean you are or what you did.
been there done that.
he is being selfish, not for his moms sake, but rather for his own reasons... and will not leave her. when you marry, you are supposed to be responsible and loving to your parents, but your priority is your partner. period.
i dont know about you, but i need a man, not a little boy.
just my opinion.
2006-12-20 05:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHAME ON YOU HES JUST TRYING TO BE A GOOD SON AS PARNETS AGE ITS NOT GOOD TO LEAVE THEM ALONE 45MINTS IS NOT A LONG DRIVE WERE I COME FROM MY HUSBAND DRIVES AN HOUR AND 15 MINTS ONE WAY TO WORK SO WHAT YOU ARE YOUNG TRY BEING A LIL UNDERSTANDING I WOULD NEVER ASK MY HUSBAND TO MOVE AND LIVE HIS FOLKS ALONE
2006-12-20 05:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stepmoms are from hell okay, they stand in the middle of our lives and make it so damn unconfortable , so tell u what give ur husband and ultimatum it either u or his mother, chances are he 'll choose his ******* mother but hey, u dont have to care about her.
2006-12-20 05:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Janet E 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get over it!!!
2006-12-20 05:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by hot chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋