what should i do , im so hopless
2006-12-20 05:24:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
This is truly becoming my stock answer:
Go get a copy of the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler, and visit the forums at http://www.tcoyf.com. Read about what's required for conception to occur and learn to read your own body's signs to determine when YOU are at your most fertile.
Chart your own cycles. Go out to your local drugstore and buy a basal body temperature thermometer -- these are more sensitive than your regular thermometers that you use to see if you're running a fever. You should take your temperature every morning, at the same time; it should be taken after at least three consecutive hours of sleep, and before you do ANYTHING. Don't get out of bed, reach for water, even open your mouth to speak before you temp. Your temperature fluctuates in response to hormonal shifts; those fluctuations are subtle and if you chart them, you will learn your own pattern of fertility. Typically, your temperature will rise after you ovulate, and in many women it will dip slightly before you ovulate.
Learn to check your cervical fluids (also called cervical mucous) and check it at least once daily. It's quantity and quality changes during your cycle, and typically takes on an egg-white like consistency before you ovulate.
Learn to check your cervical position, if you can reach it and are comfortable doing so. You will feel for whether it's high/low, open/closed, hard/soft. This will also give you clues about your fertility.
If you're not charting or using ovulation kits or monitors you may not be having sex when you're most fertile. The 28-day-cycle/ovulate-on-day-14 myth is just that. Sure there are women with 28 day cycles who ovulate on day 14 but that's a textbook case and MOST of us don't fit that description. If I had sex in accordance with that idea of fertility I'd still be trying to have kids.
If you are doing those things already and know your timing has been right, and after a year you're still not pregnant, you should call your OB/GYN and get a referral for a reproductive endocrinologist, who is a specialist in the field and will be far more knowledgeable than your run of the mill OB would ever be. More likely than not, an OB would give you a prescription for Clomid, tell you to take it, and send you on your way.....without any tests, without any monitoring (and with any fertility drug, you shouldn't be on it without being monitored).
If you're not yet charting your cycles or using an ovulation monitor or ovulation predictor kits, please, please start to. This will help you tremendously. First of all, you will maximize your chance of getting pregnant. Second of all, IF something is amiss, it will arm you with knowledge about your body, so you can go to the doctor having already some sense of what may be a problem (ie if you're not ovulating, or if you have irregular cycles, or if your luteal phase (the number of days between when you ovulate and when you start to bleed) is short...etc.)
If you know all this already, I'm sorry for being redundant -- goodness knows I don't mean to sound condescending.
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-20 08:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by ljb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been trying for 12 months. Well, not every month as timing is of the utmost and hubby works soo much, sometimes I am in bed sleepin when we should be trying...I have three children from a previous marraige, and we want kids of our own. I know what you feel, wondering what's up. What I am going to do is this...
When we have actually spent a year straight TRYING every month...if nothing..then we will go see a Dr. I do not know your situation, and do not know how "hard" you have been trying. Everyone is different as to when they choose to get outside help and see what the problem could be, their options, etc. Right now, WE are not to that point, as we are not trying too awful hard I guess.
Please don't lose hope. I refuse to, no matter what. You can consider having you and hubby both checked out now..or wait a little longer. Regardless, don't give up. :-)
2006-12-20 05:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by PennyPickles17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been trying for 11 months and still nothing you should make an appointment with an RE. You may have to go to your GYN first, and they will refer you. They can run tests on you and your husband to see what is keeping you from getting pregnant. Once that is determined they can fix it and send you on your way to getting preggo!
My husband and I are going through the same thing, so I know how frustrated you are!
Good luck to you!
2006-12-20 07:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Garrett's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 11 months and you are complaining??? I have a wonderful friend that has been married for 10 years and has just now become pregnant. The best thing you can do is just relax and stop trying so hard. When the time is right, a child will come into your life.
2006-12-20 05:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by GP 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be patient and have fun trying! My sister was married for 7 years. The Dr. told her she would not have kids and so they gave up. Now they are the proud parents of a beautiful little girl! Good things come to those who wait, so wait and enjoy each other as husband and wife while you have the time. LITTLE MIRACLES ARE WORTH WAITING, FOR AND WILL HAPPEN WHEN THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO! GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-12-20 05:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying. After a few more months, you might have a fertility test done. Ask your doctor.
2006-12-20 05:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by jframeisu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a doctor to make sure you are both fertile and that everything is OK. Keep trying.
2006-12-20 05:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by Julie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep trying and talk to ur doctor, if u want a kid and cant have ur own then there are alot of kids wanting and needing a good home so u can adopt, good luck
2006-12-20 05:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a year...go to your Dr to get things checked out. MAke sure that you are ovulating. Then if you are...get a HSG to check for blockages...tehn get hubby checked
2006-12-20 05:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get discouraged, it took me 3 years. When you quit trying is when you'll get pregnant. Good luck!
2006-12-20 05:30:58 · answer #10 · answered by Psalm91 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋