my daughter is having an affair with a man who is after her wealth and money, since he is under a lot of financial pressure. i am certain that this affair will lead her to problems. but i am not able to pull her out of this affair. i am not able to convince her the fact that the man is only looking for her wealth. kindly tell me how to persuade my daughter to leave him for gud. please. this is a request from a mother.. please.
2006-12-20 05:11:23 · 22 answers · asked by lalsgk123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You raised her, so you know her best. If she's going to marry him, suggest a pre-nup. Otherwise, you'll need to find ways to expose his character in ways that she will see the truth about him.
2006-12-20 05:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I understand u, u r a concerned mother, but i want to present u with a different point of view. It's definitly worth a thought.
Here it is,
(Q1) my daughter is having an affair with a man who is after her wealth and money, since he is under a lot of financial pressure.
(A1) Anyone can be under financial pressure, it may be ur husband some day, does it mean his love is for wealth n money only ?? I think a little correction of attitude is necessary in ur point-of-view
(Q2) i am certain that this affair will lead her to problems. but i am not able to pull her out of this affair.
(A2) Not this affair but ur negative attitude will definitly lead them to problems, there's no need to pull her, she's not a sack ?? Life is full of un-certainities, even saints have not been able to make it certain for us, how can we be so certain about something.
(Q3) i am not able to convince her the fact that the man is only looking for her wealth.
(A3) A man can never luv some1 for wealth n money. Mind it. A man always has the Man thing to Create Wealth n Rise in Life. Sometimes, circumstances force him to keep a low profile
(Q4) kindly tell me how to persuade my daughter to leave him for gud. please. this is a request from a mother.. please
(A4) Persuade only if ur daughter is under 16. Let her manage her affairs herself. I'm sure she will ask 4 ur help if she's unable to work-it-out.
Read-on YAHOO ANSWER, elders pose so many problems in the way of younsters that they feel more burdened with the attitude of elders than the real problem.
Request: God has given brain to each-on-of-us. He has given us the power to use it. A man in financial crisis is not a devil (Important). A man with a lot-of-money is not a saint.
Let this man solve his financial crisis n let ur daughter see her good by herself. Plz take it positively.
Deep Regards - Your Royal Highness
2006-12-23 08:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Sunlight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can.
What you might do, if you are so inclined, is to arrange a private face-to-face with the man (if you're sure it won't backfire on you with her). Tell him straight up and in not-so-friendly terms, that you know exactly what he's about and that you are not about to let it happen. Tell him you will do whatever is necessary to protect your daughter, including expose his affair. Encourage him to find a way to quickly end it before he forces your hand. Tell him that if he tells your daughter you spoke to him, it will get ugly very fast in a way that he will not like.
I wish I had met privately with my daughter's last boyfriend before he jeopardized her safety, emotional well-being and financial position. It seemed like a drastic thing at the time. Now I wish I had had the guts to just do it. It would have worked. I was right and I knew i was. And I could have prevented a lot of trouble.
2006-12-20 13:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No parent has ever been able to convince a child to abandon a romantic relationship. I do not think you will be able to persuade her. Also, when you tell her he is only after her money, she hears "You are not attractive enough, he is not attracted to you." Apologize to your daughter, tell her you trust her to make wise decisions (whether you do or not!) and hope that the jerk gives himself away and your daughter catches on before it is too late. If not...it's only money, not as valuable as your relationship with your daughter, and she will be wiser for the experience. She may even reach a point where she sees and appreciates YOUR wisdom. Good luck!
2006-12-20 13:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as a mother i can understand ur concern..in todays scenerio i can only say let the child learn it the hard way if she does not want to listen or she cannot see the mans motives thru ur eyes..
if it is ur daughters money let her handle it and him..if it is urs then i think u can easily put a halt to it and immediately the mans clear picture will be in front of her...............
i wuld finally like to tell u.. ur daughter is the best judge for as a mother ur feelings culd be biased ,as ur concern is more for ur daughter and probably the hard earned wealth...but then when seen and understood thru her eyes and feelings u could be wrong..........that is why let her decide .. u can guide if she listens..otherwise pray and wish for the best
2006-12-23 13:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by smile2u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll have to learn on her own. The only thing you can legitimately push for is a prenuptial agreement or speration of financial affairs on the basis that it protects her in the event things don't work out for HER. Not that he's a crook.
2006-12-20 19:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by David D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello sir
firstly all dads think otherwise, dont think, let your heart do the job, but if your heart says its worng then, talk to your daughter.
Tell her that you are afraid, because thats what you are, you are afraid that she will get hurt. Dont just tell it to her like an advice, she will totally ignore it. Show her how you feel.
But sir remember one thing please do not be wrong, because if she loves him, even after knowing that he is in a crisis, that means your daughter truely loves him, n money is nothing compared to it. so take it easy.
dont tell your daughter what to do, she is grown up n smart. tell her what you truely feel.
the feeling of being a father, the fear the concern you feel. let her find the way.
2006-12-21 18:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by dynamite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter?
Are the money you are talking about earned by her?
If yes let her learn her lesson. You can do whatever you can to expose him.
If money are yours tell her that you are not going to help her financially.
I am also a wife & mother and feel that I should be responsible for financial support to family.
2006-12-21 09:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by SH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will obviously need to talk with her and tell her clearly why you think what you do about him. if you have any kind of evidence or proof, then use it. if it's only coming from your intuition, then you might be wrong. but i suspect you know your daughter and have reasons for believing what you do. in any case, do not demand that she leave him because you will end up disappointed. let her know that you're concerned because you love her and talking her into getting a prenuptual agreement is a good idea and if he loves her, should not stop him from marrying her.
2006-12-23 17:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't deal with the guy. First of all what made you to believe that he is after money? Some time we parents are over protective. The only solution is that you should give them time to share. Tell your daughter that
1. U love her.
2. U r afraid that this is not a good guy.
3. Ask her to test him
4. Still if she find him suitable than you are with her
Best of luck
2006-12-21 08:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by arooon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a mother as well. We always worry about our kids in relationships as well as everyday things. Personally I wouldn't say anything to her. I used to tell my girls all the time what I thought about this guy or that guy. I found that it just put distance between my daughters and myself. They need to learn life lessons on their own, unless they ask for an opinion, keep yours to yourself.
2006-12-20 13:39:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋