So that he uderstands..I like them but can`t live with them...........i need space.
2006-12-20 05:05:24 · 10 answers · asked by mika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should try to sit him down and tell him how you feel about the situation . tell him you love his mom and daughter and his wife is cool but you married him not his family good luck
2006-12-20 05:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband that you and him are in something called a marriage and that it doesnt involved several other people especially an ex. Tell him you think that it's time that you set up some boundaries because sometimes you just dont feel comfortable with the situation, I know I wouldn't be and let him know that you dont mind anyone one bit, but sometimes you do need time apart for your relationship to grow
2006-12-21 20:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No marriage should be assaulted with in laws and ex's the daughter is another thing..
If they are at your home all the time, then you must be honest with him and tell him it is your house too, and that you do not want them around so much.
You are a partner in this relationship and need to stand firm and speak your mind.
There is a thing as too much, and if this is affecting you then it is affecting your marriage.
Let him know, he must talk to them .Tell him he must be a man and make the decision to let his family know they are crossing the line and he should be the one to tell them.
2006-12-20 13:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let anyone tell you that your feelings are unreasonable.I've been married 15 yrs. and I still have trouble being around my husbands ex,mom, and son.You need to tell your husband,as gently as possible.It took my husband 15 yrs to try it my way.Because I made all the common mistakes.In a perfect world we would all be honest about our feelings,The reality is that he may not like if you are brutally honest with him about you don't want to be around his beloved mom and child. Whatever you do,when you want to say something ugly about them,tell THEM DIRECTLY behind his back.This will help you vent.NEVER tell him ugly things about them.Or in front of him.Otherwise he will see you as the enemy.His mom will surely take advantage of that, you got to remember she is Old School and knows how to play the game.She won't ever tell you something ugly in front of him, so she will look innocent.He will always see her in a good light,Its his mother.So you have to know how to play that game.If she calls you on it in front of your husband, Deny it.Play dumb.She will then know she needs to back off,Because your aware of her manipulations.Play sick,whatever you have to do, when it comes time to visit.But be polite and make nice comments about them to your husband. Its the only way to survive if you want your husband to move towards your way of thinking.Its not dishonest to fight for your relationship with him.Its for the greater good for your marriage,you'll see he'll come around and you both can have peace within your marriage.For your kids, if you have any.I know its sounds like you are manipulating him too,but you love him, your not out to hurt him.
2006-12-20 14:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by laura c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with him fast and get the mother and ex out of the picture...... No new wife should have to deal or let alone live with an ex wife... as for his mother she will always be around she just doesnt need to live there and for his daughter she will always be welcome because that is his kid..........
If he doesnt see it that way go out and get your own place and say hey i am going to live here you live there and if you want this marriage to work you will get them out if not divorce here we come..... The longer you allows this to happen the harder it will become to deal with.....
2006-12-20 13:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a place that is just yours and your husband's. That's not too much to ask in a marriage, you're not supposed to be living with a sh*tload of other people anyway.
2006-12-20 13:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u shouldn't have to live with them, and he should understand that, and not force u into anything.
2006-12-20 13:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down just the two of y'all & have an one on one talk
2006-12-20 13:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by san8483 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out tell him.
2006-12-20 13:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him just like that
2006-12-20 13:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋