2006-12-20 04:58:45 · 8 answers · asked by cutiepie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi there. I know from experience where you are coming from. Honestly, there is nothing you can do about him lying. I think you should A) Get separate bank accounts or
B) Just forgive him and hope he doesn't lie anymore about money or
C) Ask him to see all future financial records, receipts, everything.
It's difficult to get over when someone had lied to you, why did he lie about the finances? What was his motivation for lying? I hope you can resolve this. Happy Holidays!!
2006-12-20 05:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband didn't lie to me but he also didn't tell me when things started to go bad. I had him hand the finances over to me. I got a separate checking account in my name only. I tell him every two weeks how much I need and what is left from his check is his. Same goes for my paycheck. This way I know the bills are getting paid and if they don't it is my fault. He has access to everything except the bill money. He can check any time he likes to see what I am spending the money on. I even give him access to check my bank account on-line. This gives him the security that his money is going where it is supposed to go. And gives me security knowing that the bills are getting paid.
2006-12-20 05:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Because now that you are married his financial problems are yours too. This happens to a lot of women and all you can do if you're going to stay with him is fix the problems. I've worked with women to go over their husband's credit reports, wrote letters to creditors and worked out all sorts of deals to get it paid and taken care of. Same thing with unpaid or unfiled taxes. If you're going to stay you have to fix it. How to fix it depends on what your financial problem is exactly. But you married your husband not for his good or bad finances but because he shared his love with you and as long as that is in tact and you want to keep sharing your love with him, you can resolve this with lots of effort.
2006-12-20 05:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont keep reminding him that he cheated you. If you like him otherwise (except the finance part) you can take up a job and live comfortably. Dont make it an issue if you dont want to divorce him.
2006-12-20 05:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be like most newlyweds and go f*$k somebody else.......it will make you feel better
2006-12-20 05:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by Stanley J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him that it is not only his bussiness and you would like to know what the hell is going on with the bills and want to see all of them and start to get them figured out
2006-12-20 05:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. Mine did the same to me. It was thousands of dollars, Email me if you wish. I don't want to make this public.
2006-12-20 05:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing you can do you're married. tell him not to lie anymore or you are going to have to keep everything separate from now on.
2006-12-20 05:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋