i been through a whole bunch of bull**** and i have a friend that been there i mean throuh eveything i was married and my hubsand had left me and it was hard fro me to adjust to being in a relationship because how my ex-husband had done me i mean this ***** really did me wrong i had co-sign for a car and he left with it and when we had a place together he didn't want to pay the bills or help out with them and aslo when there was things needed for the kids i had always did cause he was never home he was to busy at the casino or in the street hanging as for my friend he wonder what made me get into a realtionship like but now we are together and it been kinda hard for me to adjust into being in a relationship again and i respect him and i love him but as far Us how would i be able to understand each other after being in a trouble relationship with my Ex-Husband cause i don't want to go through that again i want to make things work with the realtionship that i am in now my new man
2006-12-20 04:47:03 · 2 answers · asked by MRS DEE 2 U 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is going to be your mantra:
He is NOT my ex-husband.
Say it, repeat it again:
he is NOT my ex-husband.
I undestand that you are aprehensive and that you are being cautious, however, you cannot punish this man for the things that yoru ex-husband did... is not fair!!!! Would you like to be acussed or pusnished for things that you didn't do??? He doesn;t either.
I know that is hard to give your heart freely, but you have to let go of yoru traumas and give this guy some credit. He has been there for you ... and if you know that he is trusworthy, tehn give the man a chance. This is a different relationship with adifferent man, they are not all the same. It's OK to set the boundries in your new relationship but do not make it an exact copy of the bad relationships habits that you had in the past.
Good luck
2006-12-20 04:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to heal emotionally and forgive you ex and take what happened with you as an experience and become wiser and more experienced not to make the mistakes you have made in the past and better some things that you might have done to keep your man happy.....
If you haven't healed emotionally and haven't forgiven then it is hard to move on and not ruin the next relationship as you are too busy thinking he will do the same as your ex.....You have to remember everyone is different and you have to think that way and take things slower and really get to know the man before you jump into bed with him.....
2006-12-20 15:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋