I really like this guy. He has been divorced for 2 years, says he has not dated since. Owns his own business, business is bad, has a 10 year old who he adores, ex-has custody. Says his life is a mess. He flirts with me a lot, jokes, has pet names for me, and is really happy when he sees me, but never has asked me out., What is his problem? Should I give up or what. Don't want to seem like I am chasing him. I told him that I liked him, but I don't send out consistent messages to him. I am going nuts.
Whenever any one who asks him out he says no. So don't suggest this. I will also get a no. He spent Thanksgiving alone!!
Help.
2006-12-20 04:43:07 · 7 answers · asked by WANTSTOKNOW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like this guy has a lot going on right now. And it sounds like maybe he is interested in you, but maybe with all he has going on he's not looking to start a relationship right now. I would suggest simply being friends with him for the time being and taking it slowly and see what happens from there.
2006-12-20 04:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by lilcountrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels scared to start to see women again. I would invite him over for Christmas, or maybe drop his house (if you know he will be alone) and tell him Merry Christmas. I think you cannot rush someone to ask you out....maybe hang in there until a month after the Holidays, maybe this time of year he has a lot on his mind? I would hang in there, because it seems like you like him a lot.
2006-12-20 13:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted to ask you out - he would. Simple as that. Being that he hasn't - even though you have made it clear you would consider an offer - it probably means he has his own agenda, which you are not a part of. He flirts because it's fun to flirt, but it does not have to mean that he is interested in a relationship in general, or in a relationship with you in particular. If relationship is your goal - look for better prospects.
2006-12-20 12:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You typed the sentence but I don't think your hearing it. He told you his life is in a mess.......H E L L O? He doesn't want to put anything else in his life right now until he can figure things out for himself. He is doing you a favor. You best find someone else to date.
2006-12-20 12:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends and go with the flow maybe he will, just give him more time. You know maybe he is just waiting to see what kind of person you are before he makes his move. good luck
2006-12-20 12:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep being his friend and when HE is ready he will take it to the next level. Just be patient and let him get his life in order first.
2006-12-20 12:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him over for Christmas....
2006-12-20 12:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋